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Submitted by Crr18 on Sat, 11/12/2022 - 5:31pm

SS is sick . Slept most of the day at BMs and then came here and slept. He is coughing horribly and sluggish. He asked SO if he could go to a friends and SO said yes.

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Submitted by Crr18 on Sat, 11/12/2022 - 5:56pm

He just bitched yesterday that BM was letting SS go somewhere last night and I said you would let him too. He said if He doesn't SS will never stay with him. No Covid test . SD had had the flu last week and missed Bree days of school.  

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Submitted by Yesterdays on Sun, 11/13/2022 - 7:46am

He should have tested him at least but should have said no. 

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Submitted by Crr18 on Sat, 11/12/2022 - 10:39pm

One of SS friends came here once and We found out after he left his mom  knew he was sick and someone else in the family had Covid. SO was saying how wrong she was to let her son come here. I mentioned that to him tonight and said you shouldn't judge others when you are doing the same thing. He said he knows but wants to keep his son in his life.

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Submitted by shamds on Sun, 11/13/2022 - 7:35am

Who likely has covid would infect someone else??

this gives me flashbacks precovid when i had a toddler and newborn, hubby invited his family over for a bbq at nighttime when i am busy breastfeeding my kid and he was so hungry and i was beyond exhausted. 
 

well hubbys adult niece comes over unbeknownst to us contagious with a virus or respiratory infection and was dumb enough to leave her antibiotics at home. 2-3 days later me, my newborn son and daughter were sick. Chesty cough that became bronchitis and i had to go to hospital for oxygen including my kids

hubby didn't wanna tell off said family member or there would be drama from his siblings and family. He was so desperate to not upset them that he didn't care about our health. It took me over a month to get better as i was sick and caring for 2 sick kids.

after that, I don't do family bbqs, since hubby refuses to not invite said family member or make it known they are not to come if clearly sick etc, they don't get the luxury of my cooking. We now do intimate family meals for our household only

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Submitted by Crr18 on Sat, 11/12/2022 - 7:23pm

SO knows he is totally wrong for letting him go. He said he had no choice if he would have told SS no he would have said he wanted to stay at his moms. To me I don't see how that matters because SS isn't here anyway. But SO OCD won't let him see that because it is something about having the kids sleeping here that makes him think he is start part of his life. 

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Submitted by Yesterdays on Sun, 11/13/2022 - 7:46am

Edited. Seems irresponsible of him to send a child who is sick 

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Submitted by Crr18 on Sun, 11/13/2022 - 7:33am

Maybe I said something wrong in my post but he has not been tested for Covid. He may have the flu because that is what his sister had.  He did not get sent home. He got a ride with a friends mom and didn't get home until almost midnight even when he was told not to be late.  

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Submitted by Crr18 on Sun, 11/13/2022 - 7:57am

No need to apologize. But the kid seemed too sick to me to send to be around other people. No matter what he has He is a child and shouldn't be allowed to make these choices on his own.  When these kids go to each other's house there is alway 5 or more of them together. I can believe a dad is so afraid of his child not coming around he will let him do anything. What happens when this child starts underage drinking or doing drugs. Do you just let hiM because he won't stay with you if you tell him no. 

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Submitted by Crr18 on Sun, 11/13/2022 - 7:40am

This definitely tells me he will never say no and with Skids getting into those teens years where they can easily get into trouble he is going to run into tons of issues. These two kids know they can get away with anything and it is frightening.

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Submitted by CajunMom on Sun, 11/13/2022 - 7:50am

Covid or Flu.....that kid is spreading whatever he has. Disgusting especially considering the recent pandemic and what we've learned. Your DH is an idiot and doesn't give a hoot about anyone but himself. Knowingly letting his kid expose others to his sickness. SMH

 

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Submitted by Crr18 on Sun, 11/13/2022 - 7:59am

I know and he outright admitted he was wrong but said he has to do it.  

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Sun, 11/13/2022 - 8:59am

Whatever the illness is, kid should stay at home base and not be shuffled around until well again.

Chef used to accept skids when they were projectile vomiting to his visitation when I was the sole provider due to astronomical CS and couldn't afford to miss any work. 

Infuriating!  Again when my bios were ill, they stayed with me out of common courtesy and dad could make up the time if so desired when they were well again. 

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Submitted by Crr18 on Sun, 11/13/2022 - 9:06am

It nauseates me with what SO does just to keep this child in his life. BM recently threatenyro take him to court because the agreed upon money supposedly isn't enough now. They have never had a formal custody order. I hope she does it.  They both need an awakening on how boundaries and schedules should work. 

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Submitted by thinkthrice on Sun, 11/13/2022 - 9:11am

Chef dragged his feet for ages on getting a CO so as not to make waves with the  wonderful MOTY Girhippo.  The Gir threw out roadblocks every step of the way.