There had been such little communication with BM for weeks. There has been zero phone calls and like only a couple of texts. But now since SO let it start up again it is now non-stop again. I checked his phone and it is BM asking about baseball sign ups for school, batting practice schedule, and can you take SS for a hair cut on Saturday. SO told her yes . We have a very important meeting on Saturday at the same time as a hair cut. I can't say I saw the phone and we are hardly talking so I had to say I have to nail down the exact time for our meeting on Saturday.
The Homecoming dance is today. Both skids are going . Neither child has told SO when they will be getting pictures if they need rides etc. SO has been hounding them because he will have to do something. But SO again withheld information because BM text and ask him if he was going to be able to help with SS because SD is getting her pictures at 3:45. I know that SO is withholding the information because he knows I will be ticked that BM is the one letting him know and he doesn't have the balls to stand up to her. Wish me luck because I don't know if I can keep my mouth shut.
My birthday is today but SO "made" the kids come to our house to wish me happy birthday and have cupcakes. At least I didn't have to go to an uncomfortable dinner with them. They didn't even have a cupcake. SS is in a funk because the issue with the homecoming i guess is still on going but SD was actually nice. But she was only nice because while I walked my SO parents out to the car she proceeded to tell SO that she was getting the nose ring. Then he was in a funk the rest of the night. Never ending stupid drama.
SO talked to SS about the homecoming drama. SS was not upset anymore because he said that this has helped his popularity . He was exited to talk about to SO because now more people like him because they are mad at the friend who asked the girl who SS was going to ask and now feel bad for SS. This kids gets all the breaks. Unbelievable.
I gave advise knowing it will cause an issue because I am tired of being asked it. BM called SO and said SS friends helped another boy ask a girl to homecoming that SS wanted to ask. I guess SS is soooo upset that this happened. Well I am upset that BM called SO over it (not sure if I should be or not) and SO asked if he should talk to SS about it. I told him yes knowing that SS won't want that questioning from SO and that SS will be ticked when he knows BM told SO.
Vacation went well. I had a really good time. Kid crap came up a couple of times SD decided our vacation was a good time to bring up a nose ring again which SO asked me what to say. I told him I am going thru that with you . She is your daughter. He of course wanted An answer from me as always so kept at me. I said it is not my decision to be made please stop asking. He then tried to make a compromise with her about waiting until after Christmas when she is 17 and she wasn't going for it.
SS wasn't going to play basketball this year but SO took him to his batting lessons after football practice. Yea you hear that correctly. And when SO for home proceeded to tell him now SS was going to play basketball. Football games just started. And okay fine tell me he is going to play and then proceed to say that this won't really interfere with anythin since practice and games are right after school. I said okay. He then says but SS said the team won't really be good because the better players will be on the JV team so he is just playing to play. I said okay.
I am just venting because there is no one else to tell. I have said things have been going good but I am always worried there will be something to make it bad again. BM emailed SO the link to buy football pictures of SS in the past he would have to give her half and end up either getting two wallet size photos or nothing at all. This year I was so happy he was able to get on the photographers website , create his own account and order his own pictures shipped directly to our house. Good job SO. He even said do you care it costs for shipping .
Things have been so much better , but I am wondering how many of you feel you have to continually remind your SO about how he has been treated by the kids? Or if you just leave it alone? For instance SS has not stayed for a couple of months now. He text SO last night at 7pm asking if he could have friends over after football practice , which was ending at 9pm.SO text back was this meant for him or for BM . SS said it was meant for SO but then text again never mind. I wish SO would have never even told me what it was. It makes my blood boil.
This baseball crap never ends. It is one shit show to the next. Now SS private pitching coach isn't doing private lessons. He will be doing 16 weeks of "master pitching" for a large group at one time. It will be once a week for $1,000. If course this lead to contact with the BM. SO said he would only do it if BM paid half and the batting lessons are only once a month instead of once a week. But SS also heard next year there will be more extensive travel with the travel team.