I'm at my wits end!!!
I don't know what to do any more! I am the Step mom of 3 teenagers. 11,14, and 16. The 11 year old was a struggle to handle when we first moved in together. But he soon realized I had rules and if he wanted something special he had to follow the rules. Throwing a fit didn't benefit him either and his father was very supportive of how I handled things. The 14 yo is a rebellious girl and for the most part I have very few issues with. I have caught her taking my makeup and hair products but that has slowed down since I confronted her about it. My issue is the 16yo. I have about had it! I'm considering moving out because of the things he does. He continually takes things from me and my sons. He has no ambition to help with the house or even keep his room clean. We recently redecorated his room and within the 2 weeks its been done he has trashed it. The rule is no dishes in rooms and I found a weeks worth of dishes hiding under his bed. Not to mention the 8 yes 8 moldy cans of food he has left in a plastic bag hiding in his closet. These nasty cans have attracted bugs! We haven't even hit full time warm weather and I have gnats flying around in my home! This kid has absolutely no respect for others or their personal things. I find it very hard not to be resentful. I feel used and taken advantage of. I tend not to bring my concerns up with his father as he says teens are teens. And usually a fight happens. I'm tired of fighting over this and just want it to stop! How hard is it for a person to follow simple rules? Why can't he be respectful of others! I just want to screamand cry. I'm ready to wave my white flag!