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I am a mother of two and I have one step daughter, my husband of 10 years has an ex-wife that has absolutely taken the award for the most crazy, manipulative, user on the planet. She is very calculating in her actions and she has taught her daughter to follow in her footsteps. But my husband has blinders on as well as grams who let her get away with murder. My husband is the weekend dad and for the past 10 years has given everything just so she could have fun. Stepdaughter has been in an enormous amount of troubloverly the past 2 years. stealing, bringing dsm into my house,going thru my personal things, vulgar music, sexting boys on her telephone that we told dragonlady that we didn't want it at our house, and she let her have it anyways in secret. sexual explicit videos of herself and yes, guess who finds everything that has gone on! Me!!! We have told dragonlady about all that has happened and she says its nothing we didn't do at that age. Sd has even been caught taking alcohol to school, and she cussed me over the phone. Dragonlady has undermined my relationship with Sd from day one. But would tell me to my face how she appreciated all I did.. I find a spiteful text about me from dragonlady to Sd and call dlady out on it, in that conversation I told her I don't believe a word you say or do, and a week later she was suing us for more child support! Let me tell you Sd does not go without! she gets anything and everything she wants a needs but dragonlady Said we owed back daycare and medical.from the time Sd was little.. All lies... My husband asked her what she needed and she said she would see us in court. It wasn't money but revenge she wanted from us and if she had to use her daughter to do it so be it! finally we stood up to her to say enough! she didn't get what she wanted, the court system was in our favor, I had my husband prepay the support so she could not take us back to court again. After we paid up 3 years of childsupport in advance.. She told her daughter you don't have to see your dad anymore. Soooo, we had to go back to court to get visitation and dlady even brought her daughter to the court house to testify against her dad!! The judge reprimanded dragonlady and could see the games afoot. But now Sd and dragonlady have still been conspiring to mess with my relationship with my husband. Judge orders mandatory counseling and if she didn't comply she would be sent to a girls home. So Sd has apologized to everyone except me in my eyes to get the counseling overwith and on her merry manipulative ways once more. My husband and his family just expects me to get over it and move on. Sd has told my husband that I told her that I told her I'd she didnt change I was going to divorce him and she also went to gma, my husbands mother and said what are you suppose to do to apologize when you have done nothing wrong and gmas answer was just do it for your daddy! Not you owe her the repect of an apology for the things you have done. Now relationship w Sd and husband is all smiles, and husband and gma expect me just to smile and act like it never happened! Help what should I do

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Crazedstep's picture

Thanks for the advice Kay I posted a blog to reply to you before I noticed the reply icon.:)

Crazedstep's picture

Thanks Kay, I do have 2 well balanced, kind children that I am very proud of.
They are a testiment to the mother I am ( thank you for opening my eyes to that). I realize now that I cannot force people to see the big picture, when it comes to SD, I have to hand it over to them and let them experience it for themselves. I told my husband that until I see SD has changed for the better she is not allowed at my home, and he has respected my wishes. And I have some words for Dragonlady... Shame on you, your child is a testament to the mother YOU are.