WWIII last night… not sure whether it’s even worth saving this marriage
At dinner last night, I told the mister that I had to send Leech ANOTHER text, to tell him to empty the blow up pool he bought and put on the back deck…it’s been sitting with stagnant water and has become a breeding place for mosquitos…
(yeah ok whatever)
Um, he came home and set to washing his car…
So I also asked “did you mention rent to Leech?”
His answer was “when have I had a chance to do that?”
I said “how about when you were walking past him into the house, while he is washing his car?”
“I’m too tired… all I could think about was coming home and sitting down on the couch to close my eyes for five minutes”
Then my 13yo daughter speaks up…
“how come Leech and G/F get to do whatever they want and not pay rent and not have to help out around the house? Are they EVER going to move out? Sheesh, he’s 24 years old and has a kid and still lives at HOME”
Husband says “he’s 27 years old”
Daughter says “you’re not making a case for him any better…”
Husband starts going into the mode where he tries to turn the tables and starts talking about how my sister lived w/ my mom, I defend her “for ten months prior to her marriage, and they saved enough to put down on a house”
So finally he says
I KNOW, I KNOW, I’ve been hearing it from (his daughter), from you, and now from HER too (pointing at my daughter)
And he went off from there… yelled at my daughter… yelled at me, I don’t even remember what he was yelling about
THEN he says to me “fine… so when they start to do work around the house and pay rent… I am gonna RIDE YOUR KIDS ASS LIKE NOBODY’S BUSINESS ABOUT EVERY SINGLE FUCKING THING”
Really? Well, why don’t you just tell that “prince” of a son of yours, whom I am never to confront directly about any of my concerns or grievances that he and his girlfriend and their baby can just STAY here with you
The FOUR Of you can have a grand old life together!
Because I am NOT going to allow you to mentally abuse my daughter… you’re coming after her because she had the AUDACITY to give you her opinion? She had the AUDACITY to question a 27 year old MAN (I did the air quotes) who is being supported by his father and step mother AND has his GIRLFRIEND AND CHILD being supported by his father and step-mother??
So he tries to say that my kid doesn’t do any chores… I said she does whatever I ask her to do, whenever I ask her to do them… he tells me that’s not true… or I just don’t tell her to do anything
I said “you’re right… I don’t ask her to do chores anymore… why SHOULD SHE DO CHORES WHEN YOUR LAZY FUCKING SON AND HIS LAZY FUCKING GIRLFRIEND DO NOTHING???”
Apparently he had enough at that moment, because he stormed upstairs… called his son.
Told his son, You ‘have to pay rent and you and your girlfriend have to do chores every week or you can’t live here
His son apparently was eavesdropping on the argument from the garage but didn’t have the BALLS to come in and say anything himself
He told me that his son said:
“I can’t commit to that… I can do chores, but G/F just won’t. I talked to her about it already, and she just won’t do anything… and I really don’t have any money to give you for rent…but I’ll move out in two months”
I lost MY shit then… because my husband was all like “are you happy, they’re moving out…is there ANYTHING ELSE YOU WANT?? (sarcasm)
I told him you can’t make ME the bad guy for forcing your hand on this…if you don’t think that it’s RIGHT for this to happen, then I will gladly just go… I think I’m just going to go anyway… because what you threatened to do to my daughter… I can’t be married to you
He later told me that he’s not going to vegas (I bought the plane tickets, he made the hotel reservations using his comps… so has paid NOTHING out of pocket for this trip!
I told him I want the $1200 to reimburse me for the airfare and he just laughed