I am getting frustrated again
Last night at dinner YSD asked if her food was cooked and picking at it. We were ALL eating the same thing. I said,"Yes, it's cooked. We're all eating the same thing, it's actually hot." DH then says, "Oh, you can put it in the microwave if you want to just for a minute or two." Totally undermining me AGAIN. Jeezus - I cannot say ANYTHING remotely adult to YSD or DH practically throws himself in front of her to dismantle my authority as an adult in the house.
I looked at him and said, "You know, nevermind. What I said doesn't matter." Then he gaslights me by asking what the big deal was if she put it in the microwave and how ridiculous it was to suggest she didn't need to. She's there the whole time listening to this. I just said, "I take it back. Never mind. Just pretend I didn't say anything because it really doesn't matter what I think does it?"
Did I mention I'm back to spending my evenings in our bedroom just to get away from them?
I've got an appointment with a counselor this week. I know part of this is his ADD - something else happened the other day that likely triggered the above situation becuase now he's hypersensitive to anything I ask - but the ADD reactions are NOT on me. I've done some reading and a lot of it states that I have to disengage more with him. Don't help him don't ask him to do anything - but regular stuff is ok, and I've got some tips about that. But I'm so mad I still don't want to talk with him. So the separate lives in the same house this week is going pretty good.