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Cover1W's picture

When DH talks about OSD I say, 'ok' or 'that's nice' or 'good for you.'  That's it.

I got out one of the frozen pizzas for dinner the other night and he really, really wanted the other one for no explanation. Then I realized the one I chose is the ONLY kind OSD likes. He has it stored for her just in case. So I told him, if you want the other one then YOU can put this back (it was still covered in plastic) and make the other one while I shower. (Put it back on him if he gives me decision power but then undermining me) I ended up making the one I wanted in the first place.

He's trying to get OSD here for one weekend before we leave on the trip, as ' She needs to see if she can spend time with me.' So I have many things scheduled now on those potential weekends.

He is also in charge of putting the room together for OSD if needed. Anything needed (like sheets) I do not help with. He knows this. 

He's been pretty darn understanding of my position and lack of accommodation so far.

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Harry's picture

on a trip with out knowing if you can get along together ?  Divorce court is the next adventure in your life. 

If eating HER don’t know how it’s HER anyway pizza is a major thing.  The trip is going to be drama for you 

tog redux's picture

I hope disengaging means you won't feel you have to attend "meetings" with DH and BM and SD.

Aniki-Moderator's picture

Did OSD pay for that pizza? Or did you/DH? I would have told DH that he can go out and buy another damn pizza if OSD decides to grace you with her presence.

Cover1W's picture

DH actually bought it.  I don't buy them.  He loves his frozen pizza every now and then (we don't have a good pizza place in our area so we make do with gourmet frozen and add stuff to them).  I don't cater to pizza needs nor will I make them.