DH has visitation every other weekend and every Wednesday night. The court agreement he should have them from 6pm Friday till 6pm Sunday. But when it's his visitation weekend he normally takes them Saturday at 2pm till Subday 6pm. He has to give BM 24 hours email notice to change his pickup time, he normally emails her a week in advance. Why doesn't he take the kids for the full visitation time, because he normally works night shift on Fridays.

So here's my gripe, the skids always change the pick up time. Can be anything from 30 minutes till 4-6 hours after the agreed 2pm pick up time. They always text him just before he's due to pick them up to change it. DH always agrees and never asks for an email from BM to confirm. Now part from the obvious point that Skids should not be manipulating the custody time. The other problem this causes is BM uses this in court to say DH is a bad father and that's her main defemse argument when DH has her in court for withholding visitation. BM will withhold the skids for DHs visitation weekends because he didn't give her 24 hours email notice for his pick up time. Yet the Skids can change pick up time at 30 minutes notice and she won't even email him to confirm. She just leaves it to the Skids to do the arrangements as she knows DH won't say no to the skids.

The main issue here is BM's so controlling and anal about DH giving her emailed notice, yet DH never makes her do the same. His poor management of it has started to irritate me. Especially when he takes her to court and she gets off the contempt charge because she uses the constantly changing visitation times to say he's a poor father and can't follow the custody agreement. And the skank BM is right in a way. She's used this in 3 different court cases so far. Last time I helped pay for an attorney for DH and he promised he'd start to manage the communication properly going forwards. But nothing's changed. Aaaaarrh!