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Does the copying EVER stop?!

Confusedanddazed's picture

I appologize in advance for spelling or grammar errors typing on a broken screen! Lol

Hello everyone I'm the proud mama of 3 boys and i have one stepson

My problem is with one of my son's (hes a twin ages 4) he seems to have taken a liming to copying everything his stepbrother (aged Dirol does. His older brother I think may be on the autism spectrum (his mom refuses to take him to a dr and says he just has add) 

The problem is the behavior is really bad...he doesnt listen has no manners and is unhygenic. 

The stuff thats being copyed is pocketing food (storing it in mouth and not swallowing) refusing to eat at all unless its junk like chips and such. Humungus tanteums that will make the ears bleed...anyone have any advice? Please help I'm going crazy

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ndc's picture

At 4, I would think your son would respond to consequences.  Impose them consistently, every time the undesirable behavior occurs. Don't worry about the SS, worry about your DS. Let him know the behavior is unacceptable, whether or not the SS does it,  and follow through with a consequence.  You don't have the level of control over your SS that you do over your DS, so leave his discipline to your husband and spend your time keeping your own children in line. Your kids will eventually figure out that copying SS does not have good results for them. 

Confusedanddazed's picture

The 4 year does respond to concinquences however he does get really upset that his brother doesnt have the "same rules" I wish I had a better way to explain

Survivingstephell's picture

You use facts with him , I'm not SS mommy but I am yours.  Daddy will be in charge of SS. Don't hide his questions from DH. He has to understand the differences will cause problems.  Basic house rules with consequences is needed.  Printed it out taped to fridge might work.   DH has a strong roll in the chaos with his participation or lack of.