DH is now custodial parent...
We went to court on Wednesday. And, DH actually won full custody of the SDs. Of course, this whole saga is just beginning. BM has fed the SDs a bunch of lies. They don't want to live with us. When they learned that they had to move with us, they had a meltdown. However, that is a blog for another day.
I am surprised DH won b/c he had to move the girls 1,000 miles away. Their home state almost never allows for a removal, especially by the dad. However, BM is mostly to blame for this. She decided to be her own lawyer (and it was very humorous to watch her try to outwit our lawyer and the GLA). BM's new house is almost as filthy as her old house. And, the SDs had head lice again.
The best moment in court. BM is testifying and she says, "If DH can provide a better life for the kids, then he is obviously not paying me enough child support. He can pay me more."
GAL's response, "Are you going to hire a maid?"
She also got called out on the stands for lying to the Dept of Human Services about CS. She told them that DH has never paid her a dime so they just filed a case for back child support on her behalf. DH's lawyer had ever single check we've ever written with him so the judge put in an order that child support is suspended and there is no arrears!
BM begged the judge not to take away her CS because she can't afford to support her other 3 kids without it. The judge was nice in her response, but she pretty much told BM to get a job.
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SO YOU are going to have the
SO YOU are going to have the peeping tom kid who likes to appear in your bedroom FULL TIME NOW? At least you get to keep the child support for more locks and WINE!
Yep, the peeping Tom is here
Yep, the peeping Tom is here to stay. Hopefully, it will stop now. I know BM was putting her up to it. I am not holding my breath. She hasn't stepped out of line since DH removed her door. She hates not having any privacy. Guess she knows how I feel now. DH told her she isn't getting her privacy back until I say so. And next time, she's caught spying. She will be locked out of her own room for a month!
Man oh man. BM must be in
Man oh man. BM must be in full out panic mode now. She's going to ramp up crazy for awhile, I bet.
Congrats, I guess. I love
Congrats, I guess. I love BM'S reasoning. ..
I'm with you on wanting more
I'm with you on wanting more details on the conversation. A judge awarded full physical custody to a father which included a move cross-country. Amazing.
BM should go on our STepTalk "Wall of Fame" for stupendous stupidity.
Completely, I hope that settling your SD's into your life goes smoothly. I am envisioning all sorts of testing of boundaries and rules for you & DH. Good luck
She did it during the time
She did it during the time when the judge was giving her decision. The judge broke her decision up into sections because there were so many things that were being discussed. She granted DH custody first and explained the visitation schedule/phone calls/etc. Then she went to child support. She explained that DH was not expected to pay twice because BM failed to tell DHS that she had been receiving support. Then she said that there would be no child support on either side. After she was finished, she asked BM if she had any questions (I think b/c BM was her own lawyer, the judge tried to go easy on her). BM then said, "Will their be an adjustment period where I will still get CS?" The judge told her no, that it was terminated effective immediately. BM started crying and said, "Your honor, that money is half of our household income. I need time to make other arrangements." The judge was nice, but explained that DH is not required to pay any more support and she should be happy that the court wasn't ordering her to pay support. The judge told her that she hasn't had a steady job in over 6 years and it was time to start working. She also told her that she had to pay half of travel cost.
BM hadn't paid any travel costs before now. She broke down at this point and the judge gave us a short recess for her to get a drink of water and compose herself.
BM got caught in so many
BM got caught in so many lies. She would contradict herself a dozen times in one line of questioning. She also kept bringing it back to CS which showed the judge exactly what her priorities were.
Now, we get to the hard part. The SDs are going to have a rough transition and I think things are going to be hectic in our household for a while.