They are here before you - period.
Everything, everybody were here before you. Kinda like the new girl in school, if you don't fit in, you are the odd one out, the weirdo, the outcast; if you try to fit in, you are the competition, everyone who is already there thinks that you are trying to snatch their territory. So should you just suck it up until you become one of the "oldies"? Or you change school with your fingers crossed, hoping you can find one without mean girls?
**** Answer to some of you who are puzzled:
No, not referring to this board. My BF (or not quite sure if he is still my BF) told me that last night. And I decided I should sleep on the couch, so I did, last night, probably tonight also, this is HIS house, ya know!