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Well, things have been super crazy at work, intense and stressful.
Munchkin had asked that I "help keep her on track" ie: nag her to do her assignments semester #2. I said ok. Dh had been sent a text from Toxic Troll BM "tell cLove Thanks for helping SD14 with her school'. Dh was appreciative of my time spent.
Now, here we are a month and a week into semester #2. Half A's, and Half C's. Because missing assignments.
I texted Munchkin today (just now in fact) that I love and care for her, but Im tired of being the bad guy. That she knows what her assignments are and just needs to do the work (orchestra is 4 assignments behind - each had been due each friday so thats 4 weeks)
I told her that she has created a situation that is unsustainable: I get frustrated when she doesnt do the work, nag, she goes radio silent, I go to her father, then he gets frustrated, she finally does the assignment and it starts all over again.
So, I just told her "hey Im here if you need me, but will not be nagging you to do the work"
No more over functioning for the parents. If shes behind, its on her and she has a responsibility to take care of it. Period.
Did I mention work is stressfull?