The Romance and Disengagement just keep on flowing...
Yes, you read that right. Something must have clicked in Dh's head. A light switch turned the lightbulb on. Monday night football without BFF (yay) and sulky SD16 Pouty McPouterson out the door and it was ooo la la.
But let me go back in time.
Friday night, no discourse on grades for SD16 PMP - no Skid discussion at all! The weekend was nice. Fun actually. A high school reunion for DH where I knew half the people anyway on Saturday night. SD16 PMP did not come along. Just stayed in her room. Sunday I drove by myself and went to the beach...and even on a cloudy overcast day, it was wonderful. I love the beach! Drove home with visions of a warm scented bath, candles, a glass of something...
SD16 PMP had cut her hair after a shower and left all the hair in the tub! It was too disgusting for me to deal with, DH was tired after cooking all day...so I waited and stewed. Finally hit my saturation point. I mean, yeah Im disengaged, but its unacceptable (my new favorite word) for me to not be able to communicate about what goes on in MY household. I done. Im no longer going to go through DH to request things be done by SD16 PMP. She can pout and sulk and whatever. I no longer feel those weird hurt feelings!!!
So, when she came home from the movies all I said was "you will clean the tub immediately. THEN you will clean your room, immediately".
She did it. And pouted her way into Monday. And I just found it mildly amusing. Husband is also getting tired of it. AND NOTICING. How she will purposefuly ignore me, and how sulky she gets if there is any confict. And I am just mildly amused. I did try explaining toxic passivity and withholding, but that will have to be another conversation somewhere down the line.
When she walked by after hugging him goodbye, he told her "arent you going to say anything to Clove?" She came up and hugged me goodbye. Maybe this story will have a happy ending?