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Lies Lies lies, yeah, their gonna get you! Toxic BM at it again, with new artillery. *** updates TBM cheated SD out of $$$$

CLove's picture

She is not hurting us, not really, but her poison spreads insidiously through our household, slowly spreading and turning the crystal clear spring water rancid in places. I am determined to change the flow, but I don’t know how to do it all by myself.

Tax season is here, in full swing. For some it is a time to sweat, and wait it out until april, file extensions, and for some others, it’s a time to race over to the HR Block, or your favorite paid tax preparer and file those tax returns for a nice chunk of refund cashola. This is my chosen field, and I find it interesting enough to keep plugging along, although I know that I can make more money elsewhere, and should be following that almighty dollar, I am hoping that my interest and passion for tax returns and financial planning will eventually pay off.

But I digress.

TBM, she has been telling SO that he owes her money. Firstly she is telling SO to give her half of Munchkin SD11’s tax credit, which is $500. And then she is telling SO that she is in arrears for Winona SD18’s previous medical expenses to the tune of almost $500, so she wants that from his refund. For the sake of the story well keep it even numbers. This was last Friday, when she was “just thinking”. She has already filed her return and stated that she did not claim Winona SD18, because “she made too much money working at Denny's. Basically the earnings were on the borderline, but she did not provide more than 50% of support during last years fun and games.

TBM has been playing some dirty games, but she has slipped, as if she thinks we are stupid, don’t care or both. Working in a CPA’s office, I have some advantages. And one of them is having access to over 30-years worth of knowledge and expertise at my fingertips. AND she told SO that she was getting $4,000 back (hello, “head of household status!”)

CPA tells me that I should offer to do Winona SD18’s tax return for her, to get the real story on her wages (yes, we were thinking that we might be able to claim her…!) After going back and forth we decided the right thing was to NOT claim Winona and she would get her own full refund, claiming herself. That went all fine and dandy, and she was actually very appreciative, polite and responsive, it was her first real tax return, done by a real CPA.
And then BAM! I submit and immediately I receive an error. The error code is the IRS telling me that her SS was already being claimed on another tax return, and could not be used on the return being submitted. I have the obligation for Client-Preparer confidentiality, so I do not mention much to SO, and I tell the CPA, who tells me he needs to take it from here. He messages Winona that we have done our due diligence, discerned that her father cannot claim her, that her mother allegedly did not claim her, so we prepared her return with these assumptions, but the IRS is telling us the SS # has already been claimed. He recommended that she contact her mother, to confirm, and if her mother confirms that she did NOT claim her, then there is a possibility of identity theft, and therefore we will need to file additional paperwork, so that she can claim her full refund.

We are waiting for Winonas response. Winonas returns were substantial enough that she wont blow this off, hopefully. I think that she will accept that her mother needed her for “head of household status” and will accept the lower refund, for this year.

And now, we wait. And wonder what TBM will come up with now.

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momjeans's picture

What the ever-living EFF!?

Never mess with the IRS. I thought this was common knowledge for the general population, right? I’ve been through the whole flag/delayed return once, when my ex claimed our son.

Tax time is always an extra special and fun time of the year here, too.

Get this... BM’s new hubby is a CPA. He has been filing her taxes as early as possible, claiming skid, the past few years despite:

- The court order clearly states DH and BM alternate years claiming skid.
- With that said, and being done on BM’s part, a lot of the time skid is physically here more than 3 months out of the year.

This is also a FIL (also a CPA, does our taxes, and is TOTALLY biased when it comes to allowing BM to erroneously claim skid, despite the CO), and a DH problem (he doesn’t want t to upset his BPD dad).

As always, I’m open to ideas what **I** can do to combat this problem.

CLove's picture

Luckily CPA and I agreed that claiming Winona SD18 wasnt the right thing to do, not in her best interest, etc. Mom Jeans, there was a 50/50 split where Winona was claimed by BM and Munchking claimed by SO - per the signed agreement. She is telling SO that since she cannot claim Winona anymore, she needs 50% of Munchkin. WEll it doesnt work that way, and I dont know what blockhead told her she could keep head of household status and not claim the kid, and I dont know how she thought SO would be so stupid. She has always treated him like he was a neanderthal.

But, yes, having two CPAs against you, well, they know all the rules, have the direct line to IRS, so it is very intimidating going up against them. You have to file paperwork along with the custody order, and haggle about support etc, was what I was told, fighting it.

Yes, I tried to get the tax returns submitted as soon as I could. But TBM has a friend over at HR Blockheads. She got hers in first. It ALMOST made me feel sorry for Wionona, after all she has done and said. But I suppose this is Karma visiting her, showing her how her mother doesnt give a hoot. But Ill bet that TBM comes back and tells her that she will give her some cash, perhaps offer to pay the difference.

Biggrin

WTF...REALLY's picture

Can I ask you a tax question.

Next year SD is a senior and will work more. She might move to another state after graduation. So she might move out halfway through the year. We are completely financial responsible for her senior year.

If she wants to start getting residency in a different state, is it better for her to just file taxes herself after high school graduation?

Or do we claim her for part of the year....if that is even a thing.

WTF...REALLY's picture

The thought is for college. Community college.

We explained to,her she needs to live there for a year to get in state residency. Community college is not worth paying out of state tuition.

CLove's picture

If you are responsible for her support for more than 50% of the year, especially college (even in another state) you can claim her as dependent. She can still file a return, she would just need to let IRS know that her social has been claimed. Her refund will be smaller if she cannot claim herself as exemption. But she should not mind since you are supporting her.

I do not know about the state residency requirements...

WTF...REALLY's picture

Thanks. She would be supporting herself for the most part after high school. Just a small amount of help from us.

I am guessing it’s best for her to claim herself in 2019.

CLove's picture

Its probably in her best interest. She will discover the perks of being independent!!!!
But consult with your preparer, there might be a rule or something that allows you to.

WTF...REALLY's picture

I do it on Turbo Tax.....i am good at talking to me self...lol...

Thank you so much for you help. Smile

CLove's picture

Hey - I did my first return by myself on turbo tax!
I tell myself the most hilarious jokes...

oneoffour's picture

Yeah, my daughters STBX claimed married and 9 dependents in 2016. Um married/yes. 9 dependents/ um no, just the one child at that time. Then wanted DH to do his tax return AFTER he did the dirty on my daughter and moved in with his newly pregnant GF. DH just sent it back saying it was a little out of his league. STBX is still to file for 2016. No idea of he is filing for 2017. Not my circus.