Cars, Stones and backpacks
It was a whirlwind of activity on our end. As it was a skid-free weekend, it was enjoyable in me being all about me, instead of worrying about Munchkin SD13 and her entertainment.
Firstly, the area I live near was all about cars for the whole darn week, culminating in a huge show and lots of parties. We saw cars that are concepts, so they are not even available on the market. Cars from the 1930's. Lamborginis, Ferraries, and all that.
Sunday we attended the Rolling Stones concert! It was an almost sold out show. Forget about fitness coaches, I want to know what THEY do for health, because they were all over the stage, and the energy was incredible.
That being said, the only fly in my ointment was when Munchkin SD13 decided she needed her backpack from our house and "just dropped by".
This has been an issue for a while, as you have read from my previous posts. It doesnt even begin to compare with some of the dastardly deeds of some skids you all are having to deal with. Its probably such a small thing it doesnt even warrant a blip on the radar of steptalk. But here it goes:
I had no idea that she would drop by, but she had called the day before. When I asked DH, he just said we would drop it off on our way out of town, no problem. Yet, when DH leaves for an errand, I get a knock on the door, and I ALMOST did not answer. I did, gave her a hug, and she said she had called and texted but got no answer, so just decided to knock when she saw my car. So what you may ask, is your freaking problem?
You see, I am a stickler for manners. When I am going to "drop by" my own parents house, whom I love and they love me, and I have a key, I NEVER just drop by without a call and/or text. High Conflict BM Toxic Troll ALWAYS likes to "just drop something off, just drop by", without ANY notice, and often when we are not there. Such as when she wanted to stuff our mailbox with crap.
BTW, in conclusion to "Mail-Gate", DH just told me this morning that he had mentioned to Toxic Troll, AGAIN thowing me under the bus, with "Clove doesnt want anyone messing with the mailbox, so dont put anything in there." He refuses to simply tell her no. Do not drop by when we arent there, we dont need you dropping anything off at our house, dont drop by without calling/texting, just DONT.
In our discussion this morning before I left for work, I said to him, "please just have a small word with Munchkin that it isnt good to just drop by without calling/texting. She called, and texted, but never received confirmation that it was ok. What if I were naked, and running around the house?"
His reponse was classic! "Well we are dealing with cave people, neanderthals over there. They dont get it, we have to use small steps. They dont understand respect and consideration over there."
Like Over There is some other country with different rules. So step-life-ey, the rules and manners are ALWAYS different OVER THERE in BM-Toxic Troll country. I told him "its your job to teach Munchkin differently, to have respect for others, to have better cnsideraton and manners."
He said tread lightly and back off on speaking to Munchkin. Ergo, I will have find a different way, to convey the "no dropping by unannounced" thing, because he just refuses to address it. Doesnt want to rock the boat, doesnt want to upset Toxic Troll. When someone you like or love just drops by - its completely different, but still not something they would do. When someone you despise drops by, its such a buzz kill.
Happy Moday, all.