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Gift number one went back. :)

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Submitted by CJSEEEA7 on Thu, 01/06/2011 - 2:02pm

Well gift number one went back the day before and the rest are going back sunday because if the hour drive to toys r us to. (gotta go over there anyway) I actually feel good about and if ever asked. "Wheres my christmas gifts. Well you made a choice to not come see your father for the holidays so we made a choice to take your gifts back." Maybe a little mean but whatever.

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Submitted by CJSEEEA7 on Thu, 01/06/2011 - 2:08pm

he is 10 and yeah she always has something to do with him not coming. However, FDH called and talked to SS and he said he didnt want to come down here and he didnt want to go to his great gmas funeral.

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Submitted by Zoie on Thu, 01/06/2011 - 2:19pm

Oh man that's tough...my SD9 did that to us as well and when the dust settled is was because her BM was making her feel bad for coming...there is always some nonsense with the BM. Now I told SD that she only has one father and if she wants to have a good relationship with him then she needs to make an effort it cannot only be him making an effort.

I also told her that if she doesn't want to come then she can stay with BM but she's old enough to make up her own mind and if she chooses not to come then we can only do so much.

So that said at 10yrs old he's old enough and if he doesn't want to come you cannot force him and I would probably take everything back to the store as well....

Z

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Submitted by Timetogiveup on Thu, 01/06/2011 - 2:30pm

You did the right thing. The kid is old enough to understand, that there is no Santa Claus and Christmas gifts aren't a right.

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Submitted by tryingtomakeit on Thu, 01/06/2011 - 2:36pm

Ok I hate to say this and I probably will get bashed for typing it, but I have to because I have been that 10 year old child who spent every other holiday with my mother or father. All I can say is it is hard. Both my parents hated each other and was not afraid to let me know it. Every year I dreaded going to the other parents house because i knew what I going to hear.

My mother had custody of me so normally I spent Christmas Eve with her and would get up on Christmas morning and go to my dads. All my toys and things had to stay at my moms and the stuff I got a dads had to stay at dads. I know its the thought that counts, but dad made sure to tell me that the reason I did not get as much as my step sister is because of child support.

Now, I am 28 years old and really have issues dealing with my divorced parents. I had issues back then to. I just didnt know how to deal with them. I understand where you are coming from and I am not taking sides, but deep down its got to be hard on the child.

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Submitted by anita...sigh on Thu, 01/06/2011 - 4:08pm

I would at least send a Xmas card and a $25.00 gift certificate.

If skid calls and questions the gift, say that the big stuff is for years that he and his Dad are together so his Dad can watch him open his gifts.

We had a similar situation a couple of years ago. We had bought all the girls MP3 players. YSD refused to come for Xmas with his other two. The two who came also got $60.00 and YSD did not. It was a lesson she learned well.