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CityGirl's picture

BM recently announced she is getting married this summer. We were thrilled with the news then the skids started talking. They said that BM is getting married but her and new SF will not live together. They will keep seperate homes. Also she is going to keep her current last name (same as ours and the skids) and only use his last name if she is pulled over or would get in trouble. They plan on getting married in Vegas and take the skids on the honeymoon so they do not have to sleep together. We decided to ask if what the skids was saying was true as we found it hard to believe. She said it was and then said she will be going for more child support. DH was shocked and asked why? She said she found out that the court will ask for our tax information and that will determine how much she can get. We file together so it has my income and would take that into consideration. DH told her that if she would do that next year he will take her to court to show that their combined income is more and that needs to be considered. She said since they will each be keeping thier homes and not sharing anything that it will not matter. She claims all of this is coming from her attorney. Have any of you heard of such a thing?

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onehappygirl's picture

I can't say that I've ever heard anything like this before. They're getting married . . . why? If they don't intend to sleep together or live together, what are they doing? Insurance purposes, some sort of fraud? I'm confused.

I don't know about your state, but in Kentucky, only the biological parent's income is taken into consideration for child support.
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creepedout60's picture

Wow something is rotten in Denmark, sounds like fraud if you ask me. Make sure you get your hands on as much legal info about marriage, etc. I believe it is public record

CityGirl's picture

DH asked her why get married? She will not answer the question. SS12 said he thinks it is because she is mad that DH and I married and are happy. SS says she brings us up a lot and wants to know what our lives are like. When DH asked BM about this she said all of this is none of our business. We are both confused and think something must be going on for them to make this arrangement.

creepedout60's picture

Totally creepy and fraudulant! Like I said before these BM's must all be thin because they burn sooooo many calories on being ugly and nasty, we all need to get thicker skinned Smile

soverysad's picture

She sounds like a fruit loop with a side of dumbass. In PA, it doesn't matter if dh and file jointly, she can still only get cs based on dh's income. I am not financially responsible for her child.

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

stepmom008's picture

"fruit loop with a side of dumbass"

I'm sooo stealing this!

Yeah, something definitely doesn't sound right about this. How do the tax laws work? They'd either have to file together or married but filing separately. Could DH go after her if they file married but separate?

"There are two things over which you have complete dominion, authority, and control over - your mind and your mouth".

soverysad's picture

Feel free. I've been using it all week!

"A pessimist complains about the wind, an optimist counts on the wind changing, a realist adjusts his sails"

misfit's picture

This is not meant to insult or make fun, but is BM or her BF in some sort of legal trouble? Illegally in the country? Identity issues?

I can smell the scent of loopy all the way in Jersey.

I hope you guys won't be affected by this BS.

Jsmom's picture

I do know that in some states your income can be considered for CS. One of the reasons that we file seperate but married and have a tight pre-nup.

Snowbunny's picture

In our state you can only get CS from the bio parent. Step-parent income is not considered even if you file jointly. I believe in the states where it can be considered, it's only on a case-by-case basis and is usually only a factor if the bio-parent is purposely not working (like if your husband was a deadbeat and living off of you and your income as a way of not having to pay support). From what I've seen and read, it rarely happens that a step-parent is forced to pay. I wouldn't worry about it too much.