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Ugh, stepkids!!

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I thought in the beginning of our new relationship I would be helping my hudbands kids. Before u judge, let me give u a scoop on these evil girls. First SD, her mother passed and Dad(whom is not really her bio dad, but has raised her from 2), with no questions asked, takes "his daughter" so she can be with him. What an ungrateful kid. She was 14, now 16. She "fell in love" with a boy and life as we know it, sucks!! There is so much drama now, I'm ready to take my kids and go as far as I can away from this mess. She calls me up from school one day and says she has to stay after for tutoring. This was at 9 a.m. She calls again after school to remind me. When I asked her who the teacher was and that I would be coming in to get her to talk to the teacher, her whole story changed. She was lying and both her dad and I knew it. We had suspicions when I talked to him about it earlier. So, I called her on it and she fumbled for words, changed her story..anyway, long story short, she got busted at school. Not only did she lie about that, but she made it sound like it was a TEACHER!! Holy crap!! the whole night we were talkind to her and wanting to know all of what was going on with this teacher, come to find out she was staying after to be with this boy..making out behind school. That is where it all started. Lies lies lies!!!!!From then on, it has been hell at home. She is disrespectful, hateful, mean, dresses like a hooba skank and expects to walk out of the house like that..umm dont think so. Her behaviour has gotten worse and she treats everyone like crap. She does not want to follow rules like every other kid in this house. She has told her dad that he doesnt now how to raise girls and he is a terrible dad. it goes on and on. She wants to move in with her BF back in Texas and I think we are about ready to do that. If something doesnt happen, Im leaving. Its horrible and I hate drama and this house if full of it. What does one do??? I have no idea.
The other SD has finally moved back to be with her mom. She had no rules or well if she did then her mom would cave and let her have her way. My husband almost left because we couldnt get along. Mind u, we went to AZ to pick her up and bring her back to live with us, because she and her mom couldnt get along. Lets just say it was a 17 hr drive to go get her and it went down hill from there. Her excuse was she was raised alone with no one she had to share with, then came into our house with 4 other kids and couldnt grasp the idea of sharing and chores and rules. She would stay up til 3 or 4 in the morning doing laundry and cooking. leaving lights on tv u name it. The electric and water bills jumped and it was like talking to a brick wall. She was 18,,,,you would think she was old enough to know better. She didnt like the fact that "dad" had 2 other SD's plus his other D. She had to compete for attention. My girls love him dearly and are very affectionate (17 and 16). When she told him that, he was always trying to let her know, he does not go and seek out their hugs and affection, they come to him. His D was not a hugger but yet she blamed him for her lack of affection. He would hug her just as much but it wasnt good enough. She was so disrespectful to him. She ended up not making her car pmts to her mother, so he had to do it. She was very spiteful. she would take my clothes and hide them. when she moved out, I found numberous clothes in her room.
I guess I am just talkin to get this off my chest. I cant take this drama anymore. It is really causing an uproar here. My girls want nothing to do with her. I refuse to let my girls get her to her theatre class. She wants to get us back, she needs to apologize, but I am really not willing to accept an apology. She was talking on the phone with her BF and my brother whom by the way is disabled and lives with us. He would give any of my kids anything they ever want. She told him that"I swear he wants to date me". he was so distraught over that statement, it made him cry. That was the absolute last straw. She has burned her bridge with me. Yet, the girl can still come downstairs and eat the meals I provide for her, expect us to take her to her school functions, sleep on a bed that I provided for her, wear clothes I have provided for her and then some. But thats what parents are suppose to do right??? as least ithought i was helping. All I wanted to do was help get her thru her the loss of her mother and be compassionate and be a shoulder for her. I tried getting her phone privileges back, but yet Im still a bitch. Im done I suppose. I am definitely at the end with her. It will be me and my kids who leave and its a shame, I have a GREAT man who I love dearly, but only love can do so much. The thing about it, he is not defending her. He has taken just about everything away that he can and it does no good. She has to be supervised on the phone and comp. She looked at me and said "I dont care" It sucks and I hate it. ugh.... what next?
I'm tired and cant believe my second marriage is gonna go down the toilet over a child who is so rebellious and stubborn. I want a drama free life. I sure had one before I got married again. Thats not saying anything about my husband. he is wonderful