Yep I'm still here
My 4 step kids live with us full time. Oldest SD21 is at college. It's hard to Nacho when they never leave but I do my best to only get involved in things that directly affect me and my household...which is almost everything but I pick & choose my battles anymore. I have bit my tongue for weeks to keep the peace. I now have discovered that SD18 and her boyfriend 21 that mostly lives here 6 nights a week and is alone in the house when SD goes to work...anyway they shoplifted from Target. It makes me uncomfortable that they are here alone often or worse he is alone with me. He's creepy, quiet and keeps to himself but he is a loser. He stole a pair of earrings for her and she was well aware he did it because she was looking for them. I dug through her garbage, found the receipt just to be sure. Not paid for of course. When I confront my husband with info like this somehow it gets turned around to Im the evil stepmother but I'm struggling to allow this behavior from 2 adults who live in our home and have access to everything. I tested the waters by informing him of a small infraction by the middle school boys. When he started turning on me, I walked away and kept the info to myself. I don’t know if Im asking for advice or venting.