I dont get it
I dont understand the skids...ok I do, I understand that no matter how badly you are treated, neglected and /or abused by your parents, they are still your parents and you just want to be loved by that parent but i dont understand why that is in most cases even in to adulthood.
BM has lied to the kids, stolen from them, manipulated them and abandoned them on the street with their belongings while she drove off with her boyfriend in the moving van. DH picked them up and as much of their stuff as he could and they have been in his custody since. Still SD posts a bunch of family pics on facebook including one of the 4 skids with mommy & daddy in happier days. Only they werent happier days. BM was lying, manipulating and stealing back then too, from DHs family and friends and her own family(BMs parents and sister that I know of). She bled DH dry and then divorced him and continued with CS & alimony until her boyfriend and her moved and decided to not take the ferals with them. That is how feral they are. BM & her bf gave up 40,000+/year and DH paid for all of their clothes, school stuff etc so that $40,000+ was for them.
Just a rant because I hold a grudge against that bitch yet no one else does. Maybe it's because I miss my fun boyfriend who is now my DuH. We had had a happy fun relationship before she dumped her problems in my lap. Now she enjoys movies, vacations and quiet nights at home while her spawn are knocking on my door til 10pm or later if it pleases them because they cant piss without daddeeee knowing about it.
I feel bad for the skids not having much of a mother but I also feel bad for me that I married into this and sometimes feel stuck.