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Chijayray's picture

So SS15 came home almost 2 hours after curfew last night, so his dad took away his video games. This morning SS came into our room to take socks when he's not supposed to be in our room at all!! So I spoke up for myself finally and called him out on it. I asked him what he's coming into the room for and he said he's taking socks so I told him NO you aren't allowed to anymore because we don't have any left after you've taken them all. Then his dad comes into the room and let's him HAVE IT!! told him to stay the heck out of our room and to respect our house. It's about time!!! He needs to be yelled at!! 

so SS15 decided to sneak out of the house this morning while his dad was in the shower. He didn't tell me or his dad where he was going. his dad tries calling him and he's been sending his dad to voicemail. Then SS finally sends him a text saying "I can't take the mental abuse anymore." He's basically blaming his dad for him leaving even though he was already fully dressed and ready to go before his dad said a word to him. This was planned. We don't know where he his and I told his dad he needs to shut off SS phone. His deadbeat mother won't answer her phone and she's probably hiding him at her house. 
 

just to let you know fiancé is TOO easy on his son. For example, just last week, SS was told to clean his room for 3 days straight and he never did it!!! He refuses to listen to his dad when his dad asks him nicely. Then SS had the nerve to smoke weed in his room the next day and that caused fiancé to go off and took away the video games. ( We have a newborn in the house so this was a NO NO. ) but fiancé gave the video games back the next day which pissed me off. He needs to put his foot down with his son and be consistent. The fact that this kid is claiming his dad is mentally abusing him because this kid doesn't want to do what he's told is BULLSHIT. fiancé is super hurt and pissed off and now he's saying he wants SS to go live with his mother. That's fine with me!!!
 

 

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SteppedOut's picture

Either he needs to go, or you need to go. Don't risk getting your child taken for his false abuse claims. 

Simpleton21's picture

Skid manipulation at it's finest.  There were several times in the past that SD was "to distraught" to come over on her visitation time.  They were always times after she had received consequences for her actions and tattled to BM making us out to be horrible people.  This past Wednesday SD kept running around the house being loud and crazy.  DH told her multiple times to stop running and she immediately did it again every time (she is 12 btw).  Well the last time DH yelled at her....she then retreated to her room to pout and cry about it.  Her manipulation is so transparent to me but it makes guilty daddy feel bad.

tog redux's picture

My DH never felt any of this  "guilt", I don't really understand it. He'd have set SS straight on who was the real victim of Sock Theft and it wasn't him.  My SS was great (like his mother) at the "poor me, I'm the victim" crap and DH never stood for it.

Although, that didn't help any, he still does it, because his mother was his greatest role model.

Simpleton21's picture

tog, I'm envious of your DH! LOL! I wish mine would find his balls when he came to his little princess!  Everytime he does she quickly punishes him with her pouting or going home and tattling and having BM text harass him about what a bad dad he is.  He did finally quit responding to BM and her dumb tirades.

Simpleton21's picture

tog, I'm envious of your DH! LOL! I wish mine would find his balls when he came to his little princess!  Everytime he does she quickly punishes him with her pouting or going home and tattling and having BM text harass him about what a bad dad he is.  He did finally quit responding to BM and her dumb tirades.

CLove's picture

SD20 got into this mode a few months ago. She is living with her mother Toxic Troll, they were in the middle of one of their really bad fights, and she wanted to come live with us. And when DH told her she needed to work things out with her mother because nothing would be different with us, she accused him and I of emotional abuse.

One time, during child support wranglings last year, Toxxic Troll texted DH that he used to hit her. His response was very matter of fact "no, you got drunk, tried to hit me, and I pushed you away to protect myself, and you couldnt stand up".

All the these allegations of abuse, need to be taken seriously just in case. I will never live with SD20 Feral Forger (forget about being dirty pig, and stealing..) because I dont want her to continue telling her lies and false abuse allegations. All it would take would be asking her to please clean her room and she goes off the deep end. When she was living with us, she would play both househols against each other, fabricating things we said. No one checked her so she got much worse over time.

So, to protect your family, try nanny cams, and let him know he is being recorded. Nanny cams ALL over the house.

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thinkthrice's picture

I see the reports come in about tweens and teens (little shits) who were never disciplined, taught empathy or parented in general and now the parents have a monster that THEY created.