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Unmailed Letter to Hateful SD

ccbj's picture

Just to get this off my chest, I'm posting the e-mail that my 29 yr old biological daughter wrote to the hateful brat of a SD I have....It was never sent (only to me).

Stepsister,
Let me start by saying that you and I have a problem. A HUGE F..... PROBLEM.

I've looked beyond your mistreatment of my mother for several years now. First I blew it off as adolescent bs. Then teen bs. Now, you are almost a woman, therefore old enough to hear this.

If you ever put your hands on my mother again, I'll beat you down like a grown f...ing woman. I mean it stepsister. If you touch my mother out of rage again you will be sorry. Go ahead and laugh, forward this to your friends, show it to your mother. I don't give a f... It'll be so on.

My mother has taken good care of you since the day she met your father. And why wouldn't she? She's always taken in stray animals abandoned by their mothers. Which is exactly what happpened to you. Can you remember 7 years ago? You were a child but let me refresh your memory. Your mother met a man on the internet. THE INTERNET STEPSISTER!!!!! She brought a strange man into your home..you know, the man who very very inappropriately referred to your vagina as a "twat"? What the f... kind of man talks about a little girl's vagina? What kind of woman invites this kind of man to share her home? Anyway, back to my story. So while your mother was whoring with the Internet Creep, my mother was making sure you had your vegetables and had your homework done. You don't think this is important? Wait until you have children, then you'll see. Better yet, try to raise snotty little brats that aren't even yours.

Fast forward 7 years and this little girl my mother so graciously cared for, sacrificed time with her own grandchildren for is now a verbally and physically abusive woman who is ruining my mother's marriage. Remember that day? The day you pretended to be so happy? The day you started referring to my children as your niece and nephew? No more Stepsister. You are as good as dead to them. When they are old enough I'll explain to them how horrible you've been to their nana. But for now I will just let them know that Auntie is having some problems.
Let me close my letter by saying how truly broken-hearted I am over what you've become.

I know it can't ever be sent. But at the very least I have my kids on my side....As I've said before, Stepmothers have to wait for heaven for their rewards.

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Sarah's picture

thats amazing i wish i could just tell the SS exactly what i thought of him.

ccbj's picture

Sometimes I've found that it helps just to write it down (as long as they never really see it) It gets it off your chest and I really do feel better knowing my daughter has my back, if only between the two of us. I just wish I had the balls to show my husband.

Sarah's picture

i have told my boyfriend exactly what i think but i just sounded like a heartless bitch who wanted him all to myself

ccbj's picture

That's why writing it down is better. You can edit your words so that your thoughts are clear. We don't want them all to ourselves (of course, that would be nice), we just want the respect we KNOW we deserve...God will have to see us through though. These kids are too manipulated by jealous BM's to even consider the truth.

Candice's picture

If this is truly how she feels about her step-sister, why is the letter being withheld? I don't think there is anything in appropriate about the letter, it is clearly setting boundaries to the sd.

If your sd is seriously laying her hands on you....I would reach out and toch her my damn self! No one lays a hand on me...

Another thing, these are the words from one child to another, who was a witness to all that was happening, not someone being fed bullshit then put it down in writing. I encourage your bd to send it to sd, if that is what she wants. Sometimes people need to hear what assholes they are being...

Good luck,
Candice

ccbj's picture

My husband is DEAD SET AGAINST his children knowing the internet part, being that is the reason they got divorced in the first place. They were witnesses to DCFS coming and telling BM to clean the house but no longer remember or care to acknowledge that. As for the internet creep, he's now the stepfather, so if we bash him even though the kids constantly bash him, they'll defend him too. I'm just waiting for them to grow up or I go to heaven, I don't see any way out of this as long as dad is protecting them from the truth, which is what BM counts on.

ccbj's picture

Please let me clarify what my daughter calls the physical abuse. Saturday night the SD shoved me out of her way. She did not strike me. My daughter is mostly mad that this girl is 225 pounds or more while I'm 125 pounds....I didn't stand a chance if she had actually struck me.

happy's picture

I say let your daughter have her say. I think that maybe you have a chance if you let your daughter say what she needs too. I mean this girl is being mean to you. You took her under your wing, so in my opinion you have earned her respect. and more importantly you deserve her respect.
its time that parents start being parents again and you know what there is nothing wrong with putting a little fear into them. I don't believe in abuse but my kids are some what afraid of me and would never dream of striking me because they no there is no way in hell I would put up with it.. PERIOD.
I say let your daughter send letter or tell your husband to control his 225# kid.. Let her shove him out of the way and treat him like shit. Its sickening..
Not my kids.. Nope sorry not happening as long as I am breathing.. I love them that much..
Not saying you don't love her.. I am just preaching..

Happy

" make sure you tell the people you love most EVERYDAY.. Its important not only for them to know but for you to tell.. Life is to short to be miserable..