Good news on the lawyer front
We fired our old lawyer and hired a new one! We paid our old lawyer a retainer of $3,000 and are getting $2,400 back, which isn't too bad.
The new lawyer seems really good. She is ON TOP of everything! What took old lawyer 4 months to do she did in 2 days. She seems very optimistic about us getting child support lowered, as well as a few other of our asks.
For background, DH signed a RIDICULOUS divorce decree with BM2 because he had guiltydad syndrome and didn't have a lawyer. They were only married less than 2 years. He has to pay $2,900 a month for 2 kids (one of which isn't biologically his, long story), 50% of all healthcare including providing the coverage, put $50,000 per kid in a college fund by the time they are 18, and she gets to claim them both on taxes. In addition, they live in Texas and we live in Philadelphia, so he spends about $1,000 a month flying there, rental car, hotel, etc for visitation. We get extended visits with us over the holidays and Christmas.
DH got laid off from his mid-high 6 figure job. It's been 12 months now and nothing on the horizon. His severance ended in September so we've just been eating away his savings on child support. I moved all the kids on to my insurance and pay the insurance expenses.
We want the following:
1) Child support drastically lowered
2) Each of us claim 1 kid on taxes
3) College fund lowered from $50k to $25k, and we can contribute more at our discretion
DH is having a call with the lawyer next week to go over everything before they file. She is pulling together some last minute paperwork and reviewing it all. She seems awesome!