It's Been A Minute
All has been quiet on the BM/SS11.5 front. SS got his braces last month and DH has fulfilled the initial portion of the financial obligation for that. We will continue to pay our portion monthly for the next 18 months of treatment. You could tell BM was extra nervous about getting her money, despite that we have never not paid, because she sent several emails and the reimbursement form was riddled with notes from her.
SS11.5 arrives tomorrow for half of Christmas break. He will be with us for 8 days. We haven't seen him since the first week of July. BM has been radio silent, except for 3 emails she sent DH filled with useless information that is months out and really has nothing to do with us or SS. She usually gets "talkative" right before SS comes for a visit.
We talked to SS last night and he is THRILLED about coming to visit. It's all he could talk about - how much he has missed us and DD, that he was looking forward to watching Christmas movies and baking cookies, that it's been too long. DH joked and said "So do you have any fun plans this weekend?" and SS giggled and said "I don't know Dad, do we?!" And they both broke down laughing. SS said he even bought DD2 a Christmas gift with his own money. It sounds like at BM's, he doesn't do much outside of school and sports. He said he watches a lot of TV and just sits there, that BM rarely engages with him. I am so happy that despite all of BM's attempts to PAS SS, he is still wanting to be a part of our lives and is genuine about it. Sometimes, you never know which SS you are going to get - the PASed, irritable, untrusting SS or the happy, loving SS. It all depends on how hard BM pushes the PAS right before a visit. I hope this version of SS is who arrives and we have a smooth visit.
Happy Holidays, everyone!