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10,000 pounds of garbage and a maid squad later...

carolbrady71's picture

Submitted by carolbrady71 on Fri, 10/06/2017 - 11:52am

Well it's finally done!

DH's house has been sold, all community debts in his MSA paid out from the sale of the house. The NastyEx (who portrays herself as the victim in the divorce, in spite of her numerous infidelities and telling him to take a hike) literally did not lift a finger to remove any of her garbage--10,000 lbs to be exact (literally--each trailer to the dump was weighed).

I will never get on myself for lax housekeeping again. The move-out cleaners said they had to empty their vacuum out 12 times because of all the dirt and dog hair in from house a little under 1500 square feet. NastyEx left shit everywhere, including her kids baby books, pics, and even one of her dildos. Such a gem.

After two weeks of DH busting his ass to clean out that hovel, imagine my internal fury when NastyEx sat directly behind me at a match (my kid and her son both play the same sport at the same high school) and loudly went on and on to her friends about how hard she had been working to sort out the old house, how hard it was to figure out what to do with all the photos of their precious family memories--"they should be saved for the kids, it is their history after all." Yeah, the ones she left in rat piss covered boxes in her moldy basement for the dumpster. I kept it together, for the sake of her kids, but goddamn the high road ain't easy sometimes! People like that are their own worst enemy in time, eventually their bullshit becomes evident to those around them. Talk is cheap.

Soooo relieved all the financial entanglements are done, other than child and spousal support (but one kid ages out in a year). I suspect she will come around with more trouble when she burns through the $100,000+ she got from his retirements and the sale of the house, but for now, DH and I are enjoying his clean slate. Anyone want to place a bet on how long before she burns through her new found "wealth"? My guess is one year, plus or minus a month.

Onward and upward!

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strugglingSM's picture

Submitted by strugglingSM on Fri, 10/06/2017 - 12:10pm

I'm impressed that you did not lose it on her. If I were you, I would probably want to send anonymous pictures of garbage being carted from the house to her friends, after that.

One of my SSs was upset about how much playing time he was getting (or not getting) on his football team. BM yelled at the coach to demand more playing time. SS wanted DH to also go to the coach and demand he play more. DH (after my suggestion) told SS that was old enough to take care of things himself and he should ask the coach what he needed to do to get more playing time. At one of the games, BM comes up to MIL and says "SS got more playing time this week. I was so proud of him because he talked to the coach on his own. He's too old for his mother to be fixing his problems, anymore." I almost laughed in her face and gave her such a side eye. This woman does nothing but try to make excuses for SS and solve his problems.

I'm sure she will have a new car and lots of fancy clothes and bags to impress her friends with.

carolbrady71's picture

Submitted by carolbrady71 on Fri, 10/06/2017 - 1:35pm

Man, it wasn't easy haha!

Sounds like the BM's in our lives are two of a feather.
NastyEx is the one who knows nothing about the game, but likes to scream like a trucker during the whole match at the boy and his teammates. Of course, when speaking to people, she has a high, girly, whispery voice. Such a phony. I am so glad DH doesn't have to support her berating SS's coaches for the very same things you described (which she does constantly).

The thing that will try me more than anything is BM is all about "look at me", and is getting more aggressive about getting in my space at the kid's sports events because she is starting to feel the sting of people not having to pretend to like her anymore because of their respect for DH. I have also lived and served our community for a long time, so I know most of the same folks, and have had positive interactions with all of them through my various volunteer roles.

DH is a lifelong resident of this small community, in a service position of esteem, so she got away with the most atrocious behavior ever because of his name and position. Funny thing is, he is one of the most humble guy ever, while she would lord his position and her imagined status over everyone she came in contact with during their marriage. Even funnier, people in small towns tolerate, but don't forget. She is beginning to reap what she has sown socially.

I will have to grit my teeth and avoid giving her the drama she is so sorely hoping to pull out of me so she can prove her victim status.

secret's picture

Submitted by secret on Fri, 10/06/2017 - 12:55pm

Ooooh I'd have fought VERY HARD not to turn around and say "Oh, the ones you left behind for the dumpster, in rat piss covered boxes in your moldy basement, that my husband and I had to clean out? It's too bad you left those memories behind... if the photos weren't so damaged from all the mess, my husband and I might have been able to sort through them for the kids. Oh hey fun fact - the dumpsters of garbage DH and I cleaned out of your house weighed in at 10,000 pounds! What an achievement!"

Drop mic, walk away.

hereiam's picture

Submitted by hereiam on Fri, 10/06/2017 - 1:15pm

Just nasty.

I'm glad for you that it's all done, though. And good job staying quiet while listening to her bullshit.

My husband makes fun of me when I get upset that our house is a "pig sty". I guess a little dust and a few pieces of mail on the counter is nothing, it could certainly be worse!

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Submitted by moving_on_again on Fri, 10/06/2017 - 1:54pm

SS brought home his cousin on his mom's side one day and I said "Sorry about the pig sty," it was pretty bad. Sink full of dirty dishes and stacks of laundry I was folding. He said, "This is nothing like (insert BM's name)'s house!" If BM knew the stuff that kid said about her, she'd slap him.

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Submitted by Acratopotes on Mon, 10/09/2017 - 1:15am

While BM has money she will leave DH alone, now this is the time you teach your husband not to hand BM anything that's not in the CO...
not even when her shoes has holes in them....

and not to fall for the card "But it's for the children"