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Update on Grandma-gate

caninelover's picture

Bratty and SO did talk on the phone Saturday.  He asked Bratty about the now cancelled Grandma visit.  Bratty said she was confused as she applied to that school in the mid west to be around Grandma and now it seems like Grandma may not want that.  Otherwise SO said she seemed disappointed but not upset.  

Bratty also said she was accepted to a couple of post bacc programs in the Bay Area but was waiting to hear on the one in SoCal.  She said a decision would come at the end of May but that was her top choice.  It would be about an hours drive from us so if Bratty does indeed start this fall SO and I will have to set some rules to make sure Bratty doesn't 'drop by' very often.  Once in awhile would be fine with me.

Bratty also did show up for the family Zoom call Sunday.  When it came up that she wasn't going to be visiting because Grandma said she wasn't ready for visitors and Bratty should visit later in the summer,  Bratty initially looked mad but then made a gracious comment about the weather being warmer then.  I don't think she was serious though and probably won't try to visit Grandma again, at least that's my guess.  I made sure to let SO know that I thought her comment was gracious and SO seemed happy about the compliment.

All in all I thought Bratty took the news much better than I thought she would.

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Thumper's picture

Do you think Grandma is worried Bratty will mooch off her? Trying to stay awhile or worse?

Older people don't want the commotion.  They DO want peace and quit.

caninelover's picture

Not so much afraid of Bratty overstaying but more generally not wanting to deal with Bratty's nuttiness for a week.  Though Grandma may feel more relaxed after she has a few normal visitors (she hasn't socialized in person much through the pandemic).  We'll see.  SO and I were tentatively planning a short visit in late July but we haven't purchased tickets yet.

Thumper's picture

Poor Granny.

If my kids would pull any craziness at my Moms place---I would have made sure they didn't knock on my moms door. My mom was off limits to any BS. Thank God I didnt have to worry about that. THAT I do know, my kids know better.

 RIP mom and dad. Sad

Whelp, keep us posted Smile

Merry's picture

That's what my sister said -- until her worthless son moved in with our Mom. Supposedly to go to uni. That lasted half a semester, then he enrolled in partying, porn, and drugs. Didn't tell anyone he dropped out and pulled all sorts of shenanigans. My sister provided excuse after excuse and destroyed relationships all over the place. Prison ended that. It was awful.

Cover1W's picture

Wow - you don't choose a grad school/post-bacc school due to proximity to one or two family members you choose it beause of the SCHOOL. Because you will live/breathe/cirulate around the school.

She's just looking for freebies.

caninelover's picture

That was my thinking too.  Typical warped Bratty logic.

Maybe she thinks Grandma will kick the bucket in a couple of years and leave everything to Bratty in her will.  LOL.

Stepdrama2020's picture

Bratty goes to college far far away from you. I am sure grandma is thinking the same. 

 

caninelover's picture

Another month or so.  I don't mind if she's nearby but will have to re-visit some ground rules with SO to make sure he's clear - no 'dropping by', etc.