Today is the kids' Bonus Mom's birthday (and yes, she is a bonus in our world). I sent a text to remind my adult kids. One had completely forgotten and thanked me.
Background: I've been completely separated from DH's kids since Feb 2018, the date of the final disgusting act that pushed me over the cliff, after 12 years of dealing with toxic and crappy behavior from (now) 5 adults, ranging from 27 - 42 (current ages). It's been a tough 3+ years for me, filled with depression, stress, counseling sessions, arguments with DH and a lot of self-reflection, seeing how I was complicit in what I let happen to me emotionally (just trying to make the blend happen).