BM now says that kids want to come to wedding and wants to know date. Do we tell her?
We are getting married in January and really want the kids to part of the wedding or to at least attend. when we got engaged she said she was happy for us. But when it came to engagement party which was a close family and friends day time bbq she wouldn't let them attend. Stating that the kids have no interest in our wedding. than with held access for 6 weeks. SD5 was really sad about not attending and was difficult on her first visit after. Saying she thought we didn't love her.
Now my so asked her if the kids are going to be able to attend and if so it what fashion because we would like to know in advance so we can get them clothes.and prepare them for any involvement. It took her aweek to reply asking the date and that yes the kids are happy enough to attend. My fiance didn't commit a date just said january next year. She than repied HA HA PLEANTY OF NOTICE..... Is this a trap don't want to get them excited to just have thier mum be vandictive and not let them attend or should we go along in hope that she wont back out. Can't help feeling it's a trap.
As if she dosn't know exact date she can't try to control us by with holding or demanding access on any whim like has been the case so far.