OMG..... YOU HAVE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME!
So.... SO comes to my work today. His EX was just dumped by the man she left him for. Her mom called his mom then his mom called him because they are all so concerned for BM. ARE YOU KIDDING ME? THEN SD17 calls SO (for the first time in months) to bad mouth BM's BF. Shit I want to HIGH FIVE THE GUY! So SO is telling me how SD17 is saying all these horrible things about BF.. bla bla bla. I say to him um seriously are you going to believe a 17 year old? Look at all the shit she says about me? This guy has put up with her bullshit for 4 years. HE has endured her hatefulness, mean attitude and screaming and yelling. Good on him for realizing there is more out there then CRAZY BM and her SD! I had to tell my SO that I could not discuss this with him. I don't give a shit if his mom talked to BM's mom and BM's mom is so upset over her daughter etc.
WHEN IS AN EX AN EX? Come on! That's now her family. THIS is our family. OR maybe I'm the one who is wrong. This month is going to make it or break it. I am bitter and hateful and ready for a fight.
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I learned early on in my
I learned early on in my relationship that it's not a good idea to talk too much about the ex or ex's family. It doesn't create warm fuzzy feelings for your SO. Your SO hasn't learned that yet obviously
My FIL's won't even meet me
My FIL's won't even meet me because BM has poisoned their minds about me and SO. So despite all the crap and misery of their marriage SHE still has a relationship with his family and he can see his parents (with the SKID's) but is not allowed to take me.
Personally, I think - when couples separate the family should (regardless and without blame) support their own, and each spouse *should* step away from the other's family - their are some things you don't mess with - family is one of them.
I would not put up with that
I would not put up with that at all as a SO or if they were my parents.
I have a lot less control
I have a lot less control than you do. My jaw would have slowly dropped and i would have said something like this is so fucking stupid. then stared at him and asked him to leave because i have work to do and id see him at home.
Exactly, and DH you are
Exactly, and DH you are telling me this because you mistaken me for someone who gives a flying @#$% ?!?!?!?!
Unless they are afraid she
Unless they are afraid she will hurt the children or hurt herself they have no reason to be contacting him.
When I got home I was very
When I got home I was very blunt regarding how I feel about hearing all about BM's issues/problems. That I do care what happens to skids as they are SO children BUT for her overall care. No I don't care. And frankly I am sick of it always being the topic if we go to FIL. I told him I am exhausted from her drama and hearing about it. I do not care what happens to her I have NO respect for a woman who always blames somebody else for her choices. Who depends on everyone else to support her kids but takes all the credit for raising them and providing for them. I told him he needs to talk to his mother because I will no longer go there if that is always going to be the topic. He told me he was going to go talk to her tonight. That he too is tired of hearing about every single booboo that BM goes through. We will see how far this goes on if the FIL can refrain from giving us the updates she gets from BM's mother. If not I will kindly get in my car (which I have done several times) and leave. I'm tired of hearing it. SO sister in law told me yesterday that BM is their family, as long as he has kids with her BM will be family. Yea.... and this is why nobody in their family ever moves on or lets things drop. Just assnine. Kids' are the family. Welfare of the kids is what' important NOT BM's every stinking moment.