Stood up to my mom and it felt SO good!
At DD's 6 month check-up, we told her ped about our upcoming trip back to the states to visit family. He brought up pertussis and how it's coming back because older people haven't had a booster and therefore are carriers. Babies contract it, and that can be really serious. For us, it shows itself as a cold basically, but for them it frequently leads to hospitalization and death. He strongly encouraged us to inform our family and friends of this and to encourage them to get a booster if they wish to be close to our DD.
I text my mom first to ask about her and my dad. She said she'd look into it and would ask her parents also. I thanked her, and said that I would be emailing everyone (we have too big of a family to contact them all directly via Skype/phone to ask) about it. She said, "You can't expect all relatives to do that" which, in her language, means that I have no right to tell people about this and ask them what I planned to ask. I was pretty irritated, because last I checked I'm a 27 year old woman and mother who is well-educated and has every right to protect my child and express my thoughts, opinions, and hopes, which is all I had planned to do anyhow.
So I responded with, "Nope, but I can tell them that they are not to hold DD, kiss her, hug her, etc. I'm her mother, and it's my job to protect her." She went silent for a few minutes and then said "I know. I will check with my parents and let you know what they say."
Maybe, just maybe, she will realize that she has no control over me someday.