Have any of your DHs realized that the skids will never change?
DH's hope has lessened throughout the last year and a half, but it still glimmers sometimes.
For Christmas, SS said he was going to make DD something and send it. DH was hopeful, it never happened.
SS has asked for DD to say hi during Skype. DH was hopeful SS would enjoy it, and he was a dick.
DH has a high for days if/when SS says anything remotely nice about me during a Skype call. It is inevitable that SS does/says something incredibly mean in the next few weeks about me.
These are just a few small examples.
The motivation of asking this is because we are going to be going home to visit family with DD and our new DD that is due here in a few days. We are going in September. DH is flying SS to meet us in his hometown for 4-5 days. He is CERTAIN that SS will adore the girls and dote on them. I know otherwise, especially based on his behavior during Skype calls (he was so mean to DD last time that even my DH was mad about it...that says a lot).
I know that watching my DH hurt is part of this entire disengagement thing, but I feel like all I've ever heard/read from friends/on here and other places is that DHs always have hope and cling to the fake positives, thinking they're actually real when they aren't. Are there any stories here (besides Ghost's) where the DH didn't do this?