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BM got a Job...

BSgoinon's picture

At least, she says she did. It's located about 30 minutes from where she lives in her camper trailer now. So, that alone tells me, it won't last long. She will no show, or be late daily or something. 

I talked to her stepmom today, and found out what she has been up to lately. So, she had a cell phone ticket that she never paid. Had a court date, and never went. It was turned to a bench warrant. (at LEAST the 3rd warrant out for her arrest in a year). She had a court date, her dad was doing "every thing he could" to get her there" even loaning her HIS cell phone so there was no excuse for her missing court. Well, she missed it. Told her dad she was running late, and then didn't go at all and told him it was because of a "sore on her face". That alone tells me she is no where near sober. He told her he was thoroughly disgusted with her. She started screaming at him (in his house) and he told her she better stop right now if she knew what was good for her. And she did. Part of me secretly wishes she would have kept on so he would cut her off. Eventually she got the warrant lowered to a "LARGE" fine and has to have it paid by July. 

Her "mentor" is tired of financially supporting her, which is why she "got a job". I use "" because I know it won't last. 

She again was trying to talk crap about DH and I "not letting SS see her alone". And SS responded to her "stop that, this is not their fault. And even if the judge said you can see me alone, I still want grandpa there, I'm not ready for that yet". She dropped it after that. 

So, the long and the short of it, nothing has changed. But DH and I went to Florida for a week and had an amazing time :) 

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Sweet T's picture

Omg, that woman is a hot mess. I feel so bad you guys have to deal with her. She is gonna end up dead.

 

advice.only2's picture

Not really shocking, sadly.  You guys are doing great but it might be time to cut SS out of this equation.  I know that sounds bad, but think of how this is affecting him overall.

when meth ex was at her worst my SD confided in us she was scared of meth ex and we had to basically step in and take over communication.  Turns out SD wasn’t so much scared but just sick of dealing with meth ex...I mean come on bring a teenager having to tell an adult grown up stuff like “I don’t want to see you because you are a damn crack addict” is hard on a kid.

I'm just saying maybe take over the communication for him so he doesn’t have to have this all on him. I understand your DH and you might be there responding as well, but give the kid a break.  

I know you will probably say you have done all this and he wants to tell her himsrlf, and I understand, but he's still a kid, they don’t need to take on this stuff at this age.  No judgement on you guys I’m just saying is all.

BSgoinon's picture

I don't think we are to that point yet. If she was giving him a  hard time, or if he showed ANY signs of stress about her, we would adjust our sails. Which we have done in the past. Currently, he handles her well. He knows he can, and has in the past asked us to handle her for him. We watch the interaction VERY closely.