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If things couldn't get any worse, we got served papers last night, for the steps. Last week I got served for mine. Court. Lots of court. Trying to not stress out. I'm wondering how much can we take? I've already had a stroke. And the kids will be here at the end of the week. I don't want them to know but my speech isn't 100% clear still & the finger numbing is fairly obvious & my feet too. But most of all I get confused & then frustrated. I feel like if we tell them or if they notice, it's just a reason for the other households to celebrate.

Say something. :(

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Well. This doesn't have much to do with step parenting. I have no place to write this.

I had a minor stroke this past week. I'm young. It had everything to do with stress. We sat at a meeting with inlaws about MIL asking steps to keep secrets, etc. My FIL got enraged, threw a physical tantrum & hit me with his hat. Intentionally & hard & dramatic. It didn't hurt. Scared the holy crap out of me. 72 hours straight of unbearable stress, as this wasn't the only thing during those 3 days. Anyways. Went to ER. That's all I want to say about that.

Plan on NEVER!

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So my insane MIL told us the other day that 3 years ago when we were camping & we went to get SD then 6 jeans & sweatshirt bc it was getting dark & cold. Was the day she knew my husband was not kind to the kids anymore.

Update on picture.

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So. I blogged about my mother-in-law having a picture in her house of bio mom & DH when they were married. A big family photo. (Divorced 6 years) We've been married 3. I NEVER saw this picture before. But she is a hoarder so who can be SURE right? Well I was 98% sure. 2% I've been wrong on that slim before. Well. The stepkids came. Said over break bio mom went to grandma's & they were to keep it a secret. (I know. I know. Fucked up... We have dealt with that)

Some times I feel like it's just one more thing...

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Some times when we have stress and so much going on I really wish my DH would say "I'm not getting the kids tonight" Augh. I know that's terrible. I'd never say that about mine. But I do feel that way. I think the difference is mine aren't as screwed up, they don't take as much work, bc they're not fighting, whining, starved for attention... Idk. I know we need to be consistent. And we never forgo having them, but sometimes I dream about it. Haha. Ugh.

1/4 ...that's got to change

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Out of 4 "parents" (bios & steps) I feel like I'm the only one actively trying to better the emotional state of these children. My DH just goes day to day, saying the same things, which are good things "be honest... be fair... always do your best..." Etc but it takes a forrest fire to get him actively parenting.

If ya don't ask the answer is no

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Ok. So I have a situation I'm going to briefly explain & then ask a question.

Bio mom has caused a lot of problems, from money to emotional and everything in between. She's remarried & was before my DH & had even met, and for that matter was cheating while they were married! But she still tells the kids that if not for ME their dad & her would be a family! Blames ME!!! She's a nut job.

I'm Rambo

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Well. I seriously about lost it last night. The rude ass step son 13 took his nightly crap. And afterwards there was a shit hand print on the wall. I was blow drying my hair & my husband was in the bathroom talking to me. I saw it & all time stopped. What the f is that?! He wasn't sure. Um. It was a rhetorical question. It's quite obvious it's a shit hand print. I could tell he was not going to make the lil bastard clean it up or anything. I am a bit of a germaphobe.

Good answer

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Well step kid 17 that refuses to see his dad because his mom would throw a bitch fit if he did because he's the admitted favorite of hers & the grandparents got a "Merry Christmas I love you" text from dad &&&& we went to visit aunt & uncle last night, they gave cards with $ to all the kids & they asked for SS17 mom's address to send the lil shit something & my sexier than ever husband replied "Please just save his gift for when he stops by to see you." (Which will be never...

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