Where do you exchange?
We live close to police department. If I watch on the weekend I see lots of obvious custody exchanges. We pick up my skids & bio kids at school or house, texting to decide. Where do you exchange? It's so sad to me, seeing the police department exchanges. Although we did this for my biokids for a short time.
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A lot of skids get picked up
A lot of skids get picked up and dropped off at home bcause the BM can't get off her lazy ass to do half the driving.
If BM was as psycho as some, I'd request a police station handoff. Luckily, no issues with that.
My DH does 99% of the
My DH does 99% of the transporting bc bio mom has an obsession & attachment to our home, which use to be the family home when they were married. She's plenty nuts... But not "make a scene nuts" (sigh) As far as my ex... Me only communicate thru email & text, so it can't get too out of hand. Glad you don't have a crazy situation. Celebrate it!!!!
Bio mom does "surprise show
Bio mom does "surprise show up"
Sometimes too. Not comfortable. At. All.
DH & BM live like 3 hours
DH & BM live like 3 hours apart. They meet at a halfway point at a public park. it's across the street from a fire department. I would be happier if it was a police station, because BM yells/acts a f'n fool all the damn time.
SO wanted exchanges to be
SO wanted exchanges to be each others houses (in CO that he picks up at the beginning of his contact, she picks up at the end of contact.)
BM is a dick that wants it to LOOK like SO causes trouble, so she made up crap, served SO and I with trespass notices and now it is in the CO that exchanges take place at McD's.
SO wanted exchanges to happen at their homes to make SD feel comfortable and have those connections between Mom and Dad. When exchange location was first ordered to take place at McD's, SD got really upset and asked "why can't Mommy come here to get me? I don't want to go to McDonalds" BM doesn't give a shit about what's best for their little girl, she only cares about her damn self! Gah.
I think that's why people
I think that's why people exchange at police departments. To ensure better behavior, have authorities close & on video. Best wishes for the situation improving.
When I was dating DH, his
When I was dating DH, his cousin's wife helped with exchanges (his cousin had a crazy BM, too, so he understood). BM would meet her and drop off kids and cousin's wife would meet my DH at either his home or back at her house. BM had accused DH of kicking her, and he refused to be put in that situation again. After about 2 years, it went back to the exchange being at both DH's home and BM's home. It's the same way now that we are married. But, BM is not allowed to come up to our door and we choose not to go to her door either. She is always trying to come up to our door to "peak" inside our home.
When the kids are dropped off
When the kids are dropped off at house we like to be outside & waiting on porch bc the bio mom has been in our windows before. & my ex looking into cars!!! I call it "pissing on our tree"
Oh. My. Lawd!!! LOL
Oh. My. Lawd!!! LOL
LMAO! this is almost exactly
LMAO! this is almost exactly what our exchanges used to look like!!! it's a whole production, isnt it...
we dont do exchanges anymore, dumbass hasnt seen the kids since august (except for a couple of hours on yss's b-day for their awesome birthday foray to the dollar store)
but it really depended on what was going on. they'd meet at a gas station, or grocery store, or if she was around here she'd actually drop them off at our house, or if one had a game dh would pick up at her house, maybe at the school, or her parents' house.
had to make it flexible with three of them in different activities, not to mention the fact that we live a half-hour away from where they were and the schools.
Exchanges are after school at
Exchanges are after school at school. Non-school days were a joke she would play games to avoid him picking them up at daycare before daycare would leave on field trips. Not sure what will happen in the summer.
Similar here. On vacation
Similar here. On vacation days when bio kids have to be picked up at house or work... I email to ask, but don't get a response until ex knows I'm on other end of town in route, just to be difficult.
When he was young we would
When he was young we would hand over SS to GreatSpermGrandPa at his hotel or drive them both to the airport for visitation travel. My DW would fly to pick the SKid up or we would pay for a ticket for one of my DWs family (MIL,FIL, BIL, SIL)to bring SS home so they could visit with us.
The SpermIdiot never once came to pick up his kid nor did either of his closer SpermClan relatives. It was either GreatSpermGandPa or a lady that was a friend of SpermGrandMa who the kid did not even know the first time they sent her to escort the kid.
When SS become old enough to fly as an unaccompanied minor we would put him on the plane and they would pick him up at SpermLand International airport and vise versa at the end of visitation.
This was probably for the best in our case. If there had been much face to face drop off/pick up with the SpermIdiot or more disgustingly with SpermGrandMa someone would likely have died.
In the beginning my ex always
In the beginning my ex always brought a friend or his dad with him, acting like he needed a witness.
In the rare exchanges in
In the rare exchanges in SpermLand the SpermIdiot would always send or bring his mommy. If I was there, I always went to support my bride. The toxic SpermClan was so manipulative that if DW was there alone they would try to tag team her in to submission on some caustic drivel that they had an agenda on.
We were far better off to have never lived nearer than 1200 miles from SpermLand. My Skid was blessed to not have to spend more time than he had to with the shallow and polluted end of his gene pool. We purposely never lifed in SpermLand so we could protect our family from the toxic SpermClan drivel.
Our CO was very clear on transport. They had to get them to their location, and we had to get him home after visitation.
My FDH drops and picks up at
My FDH drops and picks up at a parking lot in the mid of the two homes. We also thought it be easier to have on part pick up and the other drop off at the homes... But BM claimed that she didn't want FDH in front of her house. ( I think she did that because she is embarrassed about her yard. FDH is all about the yard and her boyfriend doesn't do shit)
My ex makes comments to the
My ex makes comments to the kids like "I see your mom is obsessed with the flowers & lawn" He isn't worth his weight. He's a lazy ass & I always begged for flowers & got told I was materialistic & that making a nice lawn was vain. So while we were married we had grass. I'm far from obsessed. We did do flowers & it's a great activity with kids & my DH & I both like mowing & the lawn looked good this year... It's funny his they shit talk us for their shortcomings.