We had a custody evaluation done several months ago. The evaluator stressed to my husband & I that she believes bio mom is grooming her son to say something sexually inappropriate has happened. This is absolutely believable, as bio mom is beyond a lair & she has already made horrendous claims that have been handled thru counseling with my husband, his kids & her. The lies come out. But during the weeks until they can get in for an appointment, it's horrible.

Every time, we think... Is this coming from the kids, is it her or a combination. The evaluator validated it is, in fact coming from the bio mom. But. Step son will not tell the truth when asked... & it's not until natural consequences take effect that he will tell the truth.

For example: bio mom tells counselor her son told her my son (they share a room) threatened to suffocate him with a pillow. They go to counseling. Bio mom wants kids coming opposite of hers, to protect them. My husband says NO, he will handle it. We talk to my son, he completely denies it. So. Step son gets early bed time, to ensure he's sleeping before my son gets into the room to sleep (my son is older) THEN... Next apt step son outs his mom for lying bc basically l he doesn't want his life to be changed at our house & her plan didn't work. ((Now picture this happening for 4 years!!!))

All that to say... During the evaluation process we agreed with the evaluator to have certain things put in the order, to protect us from the lies. I'm never alone with his kids, I do not transport them, an adult is always in the home, etc. As you can imagine it gets real old having a 14 year old basically babysat. If my husband runs to the store... He has to take him. If he gets called to work, step son goes back to bio moms house. Etc.

Since the evaluation, I have nothing really to give. I know my step son sees that I treat him differently than his sister & my kids. (It's even effected how I feel about my step daughter) I just feel DONE. Like I have nothing left to give. I'm tired. Tired of the crap. I try to consider what he is feeling. But seriously. He's 14.

What's the hardest part is... My husband adores my kids & he truly loves them as his own. He actually says he's closer with my kids. I know that is true. I feel terrible that I don't share that feeling for his kids.

I don't really have a question. Just getting this off my chest.