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Bradymom's picture

Submitted by Bradymom on Sun, 11/24/2013 - 11:23pm

When you say you are disengaged with step kids & you have bio kids also... Do you just leave it up to DH to do everything for them?

For example: Christmas gifts. Disengaged means you shop for yours, he can shop for his own?

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twopines's picture

Submitted by twopines on Mon, 11/25/2013 - 12:22am

No. DH's kids are adults, so he sends a check. It's a very token amount. He doesn't dare tell me what I can or can't spend on DD's gifts.

Igiveupsotornupinside's picture

Submitted by Igiveupsotornup... on Mon, 11/25/2013 - 3:30am

I am only shopping with DH for good SD22 and our together daughters. DH and I are both disengaged from SD19 and are not getting her anything.

This will be our first holidays disengaged from her and its a mutual disengagement so I am just learning this. Left it to DH, I asked him if he wanted to mail a check for her for her birthday and for Christmas and he said nope.

farting_glitter's picture

Submitted by farting_glitter on Mon, 11/25/2013 - 10:36am

this is my second holiday being disengaged from DHs' creature....and I LOVE IT!...I will not even go with DH to shop for him either..not my kid, not my problem...and yes, I will be the only one buying for MY BD's....as far as the rest of the year, I DO NOT lift a finger for this kid...nada...no dishes, no laundry, no cooking....nothing....... Smile