Step-Grandmonster hijacking my daughter's birthday...
So, this year I have planned my daughter's b-day party in advance, after years of having it in October or late September. I picked a cake, bought most of the gifts, had an idea what food to serve, and chose a date, August 18th, a Saturday, and also told SO which date as well. He went to his mom's yesterday and told her, and NOW for some godforsaken reason, it's turning into a JOINT b-day party for SD8 and my child. WTF!? HER birthday was in MAY! And there were at least 3 other get-togethers that could have been parties for her day. I am not throwing a party at my expense for bratty @$$ SD! SO was like "Well, we didn't really do anything for her birthday this year." Not my problem. Why didn't her own father or his over-bearing mother and step-father throw the little mowglette a shindig? It's bad enough that they purchased SD8 a new bicycle for her "birthday" and gave it to her on EASTER. (yeah, birthday gift my ass, more like they bought their two bio grands new bikes that they played with all day while my child got a few pieces of candy and that's it.) Then he also told his mom that BD wanted a scooter for her b-day and asked me if I had bought one yet and I said no. So now it looks like she is hijacking my party and trying to smooth it over by possibly buying my kid's big ticket item, but it will just be a gift for SD8 in disguise, or she will buy 2 scooters and SD8 will receive yet another expensive birthday gift when she was already told the bike was her birthday gift, just to make it so SD got more better expensive stuff than my child. I am so pissed about this! My daughter already has to share everything with frickin' Veruca Salt, and most of her clothes and toys are handed down from her, so I like her to have something for her own ONCE in awhile. What kind of person hears about a birthday party being given and tries to ADD another guest of honor? I am NOT telling anyone that I invite that it's for "both" of them, or putting her disgusting name on the cake! GRRRRR! Ok, well I am not done venting, but I am out of time for now.
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Why not keep the cake but
Why not keep the cake but scratch the rest of the crap and take your daughter and a couple of her friends to a theme park?
This would make me blow my stack. How RUDE! Oh that's right... poor little girl from a 'broken family' cry me a freaking river...
That is horrible stealing
That is horrible stealing your BDs birthday!!! DONT let it happen. S
SAY NO.
change the date
change the date }:)
You usually have your dd's
You usually have your dd's bday party in Oct. or late Sept. but this year it's Aug.? Don't people usually have their bday party kind of close to their actual bday?
And if it were me, I'd make sure EVERYBODY including MIL, DH, & SD get that YOU plan your Dd's party & she should not have to share it with anyone.
Anytime this happens, I
Anytime this happens, I state and restate that children get one day a year and its not fair to share it period.
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Yes. Her real birthday is the
Yes. Her real birthday is the middle of Aug, but we don't always have her that weekend, and then the next weekend is usually Labor Day and people have other plans, so it gets moved around unless I make the plans a month in advance. I know, it's terrible, but she always gets a cake and family time with just us on her real day. And last year we had just moved into our house, so it was a disaster until the beginning of Oct.
So not fair to your DD. I
So not fair to your DD. I would state it bluntly for him and let him handle his family's issues. You made plans for your DD's birthday, and its not up for debate or to be shared. period.
You need to blatantly tell
You need to blatantly tell MIL & DH hell no!!! Heck if it were me, I'd tell MIL myself-- that's just rediculous!! MIL should be ashamed of herself!!!!!! Plz do not do this to your daughter. She will remember it- and resent SD for it!!!