Straight to the point
I’m going to skip the history of the situation and go straight to my vent and would appreciate any feedback.
My 14 y/o stepson throws tantrums. Screaming. Slamming doors and drawers. He calls his father horrible, derogatory names. He has absolutely no respect for him nor many others. He has threatened to call the police and lie about physical abuse. Last night he threatened my husband, that he’d lock him out of the house and let him freeze. This was after he punched my husband in the chest. After an earlier remark of “go to hell” and the threat and the third time of calling my husband “a retard” I spoke up. I absolutely raised my voice and scolded him. Specifically, this is how it went:
Me: You are unbelievable. You're ungrateful and disrespectful. Your father does nothing but take your crap everyday and you throw tantrums like a 4 year old. Go ahead roll your eyes, I really don't care. If you were my kid I'd break that PS4.
Him: you're not my mom
Me: Thank God
Him: nobody likes you
His father and his mother do not get along. I immediately realized my error. Within minutes his father started to receive long, hateful texts from the mother about how I was not to talk to her child that way because I am not his parent.
I agree I should have been less emotional and more tactful. All I can say is that I was so fed up with my husband being bullied by a boy that I could not stay quiet any longer. Unfortunately, this is only going to make matters worse. I did nothing to help the situation and for that I feel absolutely awful.