At the time I met my husband my SD was a high school senior. We all moved in togather right before Thanksgiving. She wanted her boyfriend to move in. I was against it but she had daddy wrapped around her finger and we werent married yet so I didnt have no say. I told him he had to contribute in some way. He never did. I married my husband soon after. I kicked the boyfriend out. My SD and I was constantly fighting because she wanted to stay out late and smoke pot in my house. DH kept on saying just get along. She finally graduated and I told her she needed to get a job or help out around the house. She didnt want to do any of it. She moved in with her then boyfriend. I helped her move and get things for her first apartment. Didn't hear from her for months even tho Dh tried to get ahold of her. She finally called him and said she was getting kicked out of her apartment. I told her she could come back with rules . My son came along right before she moved back in. It was fine for a couple of months when she started acting up again. She had no job , ate all of our food , didnt want to help with her little brother. I kicked her out and she moved back into her other step moms house. She ghosted her dad again. One day we werent home and she broke into my house and lied about it. She eventually apologised to DH but not to me. While she was living with her other SM she met a new guy. After a month of dating him she got pregnant. Trying to be a good SM I bought her stuff for the baby. She moved in with her new boyfriend. She once again ghosted us. We didnt hear or get a hold of her until she called hubby and told him she was about to have another kid. Didnt see any of the the babies until after the second baby was born. She then apologised to both of us and acted like she wanted to be a family. Made plans and she flaked out on us and ghosted again. Now the only time she calls if she is fighting with baby daddy and wants to move back home. First time she did that my DH went and got all of her stuff. As soon as she got here she called her boyfriend and then he came and got her. Made my DH bring all her stuff back. We were suppose to get togather and she ghosted us for a couple of months.She called DH last Thursday and boohooed to him that she really wanted to move in with us. So she called me and asked to help get the spare room ready on Saturday. She texted me Sat morning and said she had a headache. I brought her headache medicine and boxes. She said she would call her dad after she gets up from nap. DH got off work that evening and called her. She said she was making dinner and she would call him later. Wanted to get togather on Fathers Day. She texted him and said do what you want to do and we can get togather when you get back. She then made another excuse. My husband kept trying to get a hold of her but she ghosted us again. My husband will not confront her about her behavior , But the way she is treating him is making me very angry. My son doesnt understand why his sister is acting like this. I told my DH I am done with SD but he can still have relationship with her. But I feel like its going to cause problems when she reaches out to him again and have more fake apologise . I dont know what else to do. Thanks