Crazy sh!t
as many of you know, I have a plan in progress. It dates Jan 1st. I'll be fully prepare to leave on that day.
DHs crap keeps get crazier. I'm abusive for telling him how his actions Affect others. He got mad at me over me waiting to go to dinner for my birthday. 3 days later I went with just my kids. Father's Day, I get tickets to a show. We are all going to go spend time together on Monday. Monday comes and he never leaves bed. Wednesday night he takes off with YSD for dinner. My bios don't appreciate him blah blah blah. I told him, so the kids who are mad at the way you treated my birthday and where told by BF to not wish you a Happy Fathers Day should be held to a higher standard then you? You completely blew off my birthday. And if I say anything, I'm abusive, tearing him down, holding a grudge. But his behavior is NOT abusive, only me pointing it out. My kids are horrible for not wishing him a Happy Father's Day. But he has reasons why ignoring my birthday was ok.
He said I control the household. I told him, please go for it. But NOt with my kids. As long as SGD was here, he wanted nothing to do with them, because what about her? Then she left and he ONLY wants a relationship with DD. Nope, not going to happen. You will NOT split my kids. You don't get to do to them what you did to OSD and YSD... And replay SGD versus DD/DS. There is always ONE that gets way more attention with him. I stopped that bullshit. The dogs, I don't let him do anything. Well,the problem? They got into it, I was trying to get one to calm down. So he starts petting the other. I pulled her away and made her sit. I'm controlling. I told him, sorry dog training 101, don't give positive attention to negative behavior. He said well I bought their training collars. Yep and told me to training them. Did NOTHING. But I'm negative, controlling, not a good person, tear him apart...
I made the comment, if calling out the behavior is abusive, what is the actual behavior??
I've watch him try to get in between me and bios. More with DD. But every once in awhile with DS. I tell them to pick up something, he wants them to do something else. Nope, you don't get to over ride me with my own kids. My dogs, my kids. You haven't done shit. It is just excuse after excuse and I'm the one to blame. And I'm abusive. Bullshit.
January 1st. January 1st. Can't come soon enough.
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I wish you could get out
I wish you could get out sooner! Sounds terrible!
Google narcissistic
Google narcissistic sociopaths and see if he fits any of the parameters.
My friend has an Ex that is NS and he would do things like you've described. Leaving is very very difficult, they play mind games, they manipulate, lie, steal and make you question your own sanity. All while blaming you for their behaviour! Nothing is ever their fault and they only did what they had to do because of your actions.
Please be careful.
Her ex killed 2 dogs, told
Her ex killed 2 dogs, told everyone he had to put them down because of stomach problems.
There is a strategy called the grey rock method. Because they will try to take or harm what you love, you love a decoy, the grey rock. They don't think or feel like us, they take all their cues from you and they are very observant. People are the same as things to them.
So you make them think that some small insignificant thing in your life is the most important thing in the world. Tell your friends how much you love that antique clock, you'd never ever part with it, it's going to belong to your grandchildren someday. It's best if everyone around you believes you, it will help convince them. Then when you leave they will fight for the clock and you can get your kids and pets out without a fight.