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Still more crap from SD16

The big G's picture

Hi guys, am i wrong for feeling this way? It bothers me i cant like SD.

Here is a list of the things SD does that annoys me.

1- She joined a gym (only after i did which we pay for) she wont go unless her bf is going. I suspect its a way to get over his parents rule of 2 nights off a week. Anyway it annoys me that shes joined and isn't using it. If she does she goes for 30 minutes here and there and watches her bf the whole time.

2- Shes had over 500.00 uk pounds from last October to bug clothes this is prob about 300.00 more than me or aOH. Anyways she threw a tantrum that she hasn't got any clothes.. When i was 15 i got a job and bought my own. Needless to say OH sympathies with her and is taking her clothes shopping.

3- OH lets SD 16 and her bf (just turned 15) sleep together, it might be a generation thing? I think its wrong and when i voiced my concerns i got shot down.

4- SD kicks her sisters out of the room when shes getting dressed but leaves her bf in the room with her, if i catch her i kick him out too. I don't like the example.shes setting to my bd's.

5- She wants a new iphone. I really don't think we should be paying a contract for her till she is nearly 19! She should be working and paying her own way a bit surely?

6- She puts empty boxes and wrappers back in cupboards. This gets me, i mean surely it must be easier to put the empties in the bin or recycling? She knows it annoys me, kind of flattered she pits more effort into annoying me Wink

7- She is dirty, i know I've posted this before but she leaves dirty knockers laying around. ( i don't mind her doing it in her room) but this is in the hallway or bathroom, and by dirty sometimes its monthly dirty. She wont use the first layer of toilet roll, so she unwraps it and throws it on the bathroom floor, i nicked an idea from on here and left the last lot on her pillow, hoping it will stop.

8- She gets up and walks her bf to school them sits about all day till its time to pick him up. I'm tempted to let her use the kids old pram or buy her some reins!!

9- my nephew gave her a part time Saturday job, she had to take her bf with her. OH got ip early and took them, she did f all when she was there and her bf did all the work. Then she moaned when she only got paid 20.00 quid for 4 hours work. Shes cancelled on my nephew now, who couldn't really afford the 40.00 he paid them in the first place. He only did offered her the job as a favour to me. She also owes him money, he bought her a new matress, (she broke her 3 year old one don't want to know how) she swore she would pay him back and she wont now and laughed about it. Mu nephew is self employed tutor and market trader he has a big heart and not alot of money. I can see it being me who pays him back Sad

I get so worried that i cant like her, I've tried but she is so entitled and rude. She shouts at OH all the time. In front of my girls taught my oldest to swear,

could u like her or is it just me?

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JingerVZ's picture

Why must you like her? No other relationship forces you to like anyone. Why is it different with a skid? If you don't like SD you don't like her. With the reasons listed above (lazy, messy, dirty, entitled, etc) I wouldn't like her too. I would not even want to live with that thing...

So I ask you: why MUST you like her?

The big G's picture

Thank god for that, its nice to hear someone else say what I'm thinking. U know i need to stop feeling guilty about it x

JingerVZ's picture

I don't like my SS12. I have gotten over beating myself up over my lack of maternal feelings, lack of compassion or warmth towards the kid. I don't feel guilty or like a freak anymore. I don't like the skid, it is what it is. I can not Iove a rude, disrespectful, lying, dirty, entitled brat. Who can? And why should I? I did not create that kid. He is someone else's sex trophy. He has parents, they are more than welcome to love him....

Disneyfan's picture

Why do you dislike SD but not her father? He is the one allowing most of the things on your list to go on.

If you don't like the example SD and her BF are setting for your BDs, then the best thing to do is to remove your kids from that environment. If it's your house, kick SO and his daughter out. Idmf it's his home, you and your kids leave.

The big G's picture

I know hes also to blame, its the only bad part of him. He over compensates with her, but that bring said she is also old enough to think for herself. She seems to have missed his good genes. Hes bright, funny, hard working, good ethics except for SD compulsive about making sure washing and dishes are done (one of my fav characteristics i like ) }:)

He is perfect except from his total lack of noticing SD true nature, i make sure he isn't the same with our daughters.

The big G's picture

Her whole life evolves around her bf, she lost all her mates, they are in constant contact by phone face time etc. She is on birth control, i took her to the Drs someone had too. Her bm don't give a shight. Bfs mum don't like her too much, occasionally she texts me to air her views which i relay to oh. As for the clothes etc it was before she left school shes too busy. Now its she must have forgotten. Ffs they stay there for days, unless i know i have guests in which case being petty i kick them into her room.

I have had too many talks with oh about her behaviour, tbh i think he just wallpapers over everything wanting a quiet life where SD is concerned.

no chance would i lend her nor allow any of my family to lend her money again. Her bed wasn't badly broken and usable, she only had to wait 2 months for us to have enough money to replace it. Which oh is still doing, his argument was that my nephew didn't agree with him to lend sd the money so why should he be responsible.

ctnmom's picture

Your SD is sleeping with her BOYFRIEND underneath your roof in front of YOUR DAUGHTERS? Did I read this right? Man, I must be getting old.

The big G's picture

Nope i agree but when i voiced my objections i was the nasty one. Damned if my children are allowed to do the same. She was 15 when he first stayed ...... Sad

The big G's picture

I know OH is to blame as well, he has always massively over compensated for her useless BM. Its a shame it is the only blip on his character. I know if we didn't have our 2 daughters we would still be together but living apart. We have young children so being house proud has long gone, i have made sure the kids are aware that they have to tidy and clean, all i can do is teach them right from wrong. Hope SD isn't too much of an influence :?

ChiefGrownup's picture

To OP, not only would I not be able to like this girl, I wouldn't live with her. And I wouldn't live with the man who allowed such behavior. I would tell him my boundaries clearly.

Then I would start packing because he'll be unable to meet them and that's fine. He can have his family the way he wants and I would get my girls the hell outta there.