My SS (24) is totally worthless. Drugs, alcohol, has a skank junkie of a girlfriend. He works 10-15 hours a week and they live on the floor of someone who has a section 8 apt.

My DH has huge guilt because his second wife (I'm #3) treated this boy like crap when he was 6 years old on. And the father let her get away with murder. Plus his BM was always more interested in where her next "boyfriend" was coming from. She kicked him out at 16 so her ex-junkie BF could move in. He has had a sad life - but I was not part of it. I did not arrive on the scene until years later.

I recently gave up my ticket for LSU/Alabama football game so they could go together. This was a major sacrifice if you know anything about football. We later traveled to Louisiana with SS and he got a weeks vacation with lots of stuff to do.

Okay so I am now claiming saint of the year status - and I refuse to do one more thing for SS and his skank. I am not even doing Christmas presents. This WAS his Christmas gift - it cost hundreds of dollars to do this plus I would have loved to have been at the game even if we did lose.

I'll admit here that this was a calculated move. I gave a whole lot up front not to have to be bothered with him for another year or two. Was it that bad?