Am I becoming a SD????
Wow- so mom hit me with something unexpected yesterday. My mom and dad were married 45 years, he passed 3.5 years ago after a long/horrific battle with cancer. What we all went through was horrible. My parents were soul mates/best friends and mom had a VERY hard time grieving him. She has been very lonely, depressed, and has often said she would remarry and didn't want to be alone.
Before my dad passed he told me several times to make sure mom finds a nice guy and not spend her days alone. My moms family lives a long time. Keep in mind my mom is turning 77 this year! She's in quite good health-no major anything...I think she's scatter brained but I think this comes becomes of stress/depression.
Anyways, she's gone on a few dates with a couple of elderly guys but it seems now she has met 'the one'- they apparently are both smitten with eachother and spending lots of time-but it's recent, last couple of months only. They do have a lot in common faith wise, morals, etc.
He has had a tough life but it hasn't made him bitter, but a soft/broken man if that makes sense. His exwife (divorced well over a decade ago I believe) was abusive-as in physicaly even, his children have nothing to do with her. He has 3 adult kids-one son committed suicide (not sure when)- one is a drinker- no issues with the daugther apparently. So he has some family bagagge it seems.
One of my brothers (that lives here) and I will meet w/him and my mom for lunch soon just to get to know him. Thing is, mom is talking marriage, and not to far off. She says she is old as is he and life is short, when she finally found the one and has waited patiently that she won't waste time. I asked her to wait 6 months-she said likely sooner, I said ok then-3-4 at least? So the crazy love goggles can fog up a bit to see if there are any red flags? LOL
What should we as her kids be worried about regarding her well-being. Mom doesn't have much in terms of assets or anything -her and dad never had much to speak of. I AM happy for her-after a lifetime of her w/dad it's totally going to weird me out I"m sure but I'm open to him because I really don't want mom to be alone for however many years she has left. I've been heartbroken worried about her well-being (emotional) and loneliness.