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b1tchplease's picture

Oh boy, where do I start?

Nutty McDougal is up to her tricks yet again. We had gotten so much resolved with the use of an attorney and the courts, but now she's acting foolish again. WHY?? Well, I'm not crazy so I can only imagine, but HER -> Nutty McDougal's problem is this: Why wasn't she told/invited to my FH's grandmother's surprise birthday party the Saturday after Thanksgiving?

We record ALL phone calls and pretty much have a 20 page document of text messages she has sent, so she bitched for about 10 minutes about how his grandmother doesn't like her or their child before allowing my FH to say anything and what he said was: "It's none of your business what parties MY family has for anyone. And for the record, my grandmother LOVES her greatgrandson, she just doesn't like you!"

She then referred to his grandmother as a 'bitch', 'an old bat', a couple more 'bitches' and finally 'a stupid cunt'! Wow. I have been hanging with his grandmother for 2 years and love her dearly since my own beloved grandmother passed away years ago (our grandmothers knew each other, so needless to say we have a little history). I know that his grandmother can't STAND Nutty McDougal and not many can stomach her. She's rude, obnoxious, disgustingly stupid and not to mention her own job she's held to date is to have kids for CS. His grandmother doesn't talk about Nutty McDougal, but if Nutty McDougal calls her house, she hangs up on her!

So her whole deal is that SS cannot come for Thanksgiving because my FH didn't tell her that there was a party and she wasn't invited and because she's not invited, SS can't come! I can't stand the janky whore!!!

She's also been playing games on the phone, but that's another blog!!! Just venting is all.

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stepoff's picture

What does the custody agreement say regarding holidays? And why would she even 'ask' why she wasn't invited when she apparently knows that DH's grandma doesn't like her? Was she having a bad day and needed to bitch about something? Nutty is right.

Storm76's picture

Why would she want to stay in touch with her ex in-laws anyway? This smacks of an excuse, any excuse, to try and mess up a family event for you guys.

She sounds like a nightmare - good luck!

b1tchplease's picture

Storm - they were never married and she wasn't ever his GF! She was one of those booty call girls and the only reason she knows his grandmother is through the branch of family we call the Instigators. They co-sign all her nuttiness and defend her, making it out to be my FH who's wrong because he didn't want to be with her when she found out she was pregnant!

The agreement states every other holiday, which she was fine with in mediation and stated that since she had him for both of last year's events, we could have him this year. I think that she just likes to get my FH all excited about having the kids together for the holidays and then she snatches it away. When he brought up the agreement, she said, Take me back to court then because he's not coming!!! }:) Evil bitch!

She got caught in a few lies last week and my FH told her that he and I discussed the situation and felt it's better if we communicate solely through email. Well, she felt like I was calling the shots, but she's been calling my house after 11 pm and sending texts after 12:30 AM which wake up my son and disrespect my household. I think that this is all stemming from that situation and now my FH doesn't answer her calls and all texts from her phone have been blocked, but that's another blog! Faking, you are right, she's determined to mess it up, but what she doesn't know is that we'll have a good time regardless of what she does. The only person she is truly hurting is SS. Sad

No one can make you feel inferior with your consent - Eleanor Roosevelt

stepoff's picture

If they were never married, she has no business there. Heck, even if they were divorced, she still has no business there. You are his wife now and the one who should accompany him to family events, not BM. If it were me, I would stick to the custody agreement, no flexing whatsoever. If she offers SS for one of her holidays, I would respectfully decline. So that means that you and DH will have SS on Christmas. That's even better! And if she chooses to not stick to the agreement herself, I would take her up on her offer and take her to court. E-mail is best!

blakesmommy's picture

Wow, BM really is nutty. That's just mean, though, you are right -she is only hurting SS! I'd guess she is mad because she can't insert herself into your family and wreak havoc as only nutty people do, so she's p!ssed about it. She shouldn't be there at all.
I've had to do the same thing before, go back and stick to the CO like glue!
Nothing like a nutty ex to try and ruin good holidays!

'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.'

Storm76's picture

If you're due to have SS for Thanksgiving, and you've got her on tape saying she won't let you, and feel free to take her to court, surely it would be a fairly simple & quick thing to have her held in contempt of court? Or does she need to actually withhold visitation, rather than just threaten it?

b1tchplease's picture

My FH has to make an attempt to pick up the child. If she doesn't hand him over or make him available by other means then she is in contempt. He's told her in recorded convo that he will call the district magistrate and have a constable at her door with a copy of his CO. She said, "Go ahead and see how far that'll get you." She lives in a very small remote area where the people are screwing their brothers and sisters (I don't know if it's true, but it's sooo small that it makes you feel like everyone is related) and it's about 2 1/2 to 3 hrs. from where we live and she has no car, so all traveling is done by us.

I have a feeling that she'll call the police and say that we're harrassing her and that's why she won't hand over SS. She's done this before and the cops have told us to leave her property without SS (there was no court order then).

It's really frustrating to have this over your head during the holidays. I have a feeling that Christmas is gonna be ruined too and all FH and I can do is smile.

OH, and her latest gripe (yesterday when she called and left a message) was that she heard that he and I were planning our wedding, he's been paying his CS late so he could buy me a ring?! Uh, no, dumb bitch, they take it right out of his paycheck before he can touch it and if he's buying me a ring, so fucking what? He works 40+ hours a week while you sit on your fat lard cottage cheese ass collecting CS, foodstamps, WIC and pay $3 for rent! UGH, I highly dislike her for real!

No one can make you feel inferior with your consent - Eleanor Roosevelt

stepoff's picture

If you contact the police now and let them know that you might be having an issue on Friday with her, do you think that would make a difference to the police and help your case any? Sounds like she's baiting you and DH to see how far you'll go. I would go all the way!