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Ashleytenorio17's picture

Omg here comes freaking BM with her continued crap and pawning of SD on us yet again! I'm beyond annoyed!!! We just had her for over a week on what was hell vacation if you read my last blog! We can't get a break because it's DH weekend again and I know with DD party on Saturday and Father's Day on Sunday I'll well be more hell with SD fighting for Attention and what not but atleast she was going home Sunday... then I happen to see a text come across DH phone from DH and I immediately thought wtf does she want and it reads " I was hoping you could help" I'm like help with what . Of course I'm the last to know that she asked DH if SD could stay with us until Tuesday because her sitter is going out of town (BM lives 3 hours from us) DH just started a work from how job this week and it has been hell with our 3 kids here with just me caring for them . I'm not taking care of SD10!!! I said did you tell her you have a job now?!? He said yes and he would prob ask his mom about SD staying with her... ugh I'm like no it's BM problem not yours to yet again help her with!!! SD is not gonna wanna stay with DH mom if she knows we will all be at home!!! I thought with BM finally letting SD live with her and DH starting a job the dumping SD on us would stop but no... I'm freaking annoyed 

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JRI's picture

You were just able to take her back after hell week!!

Ashleytenorio17's picture

Right!!! We dumped her with BM Friday and this Friday is DH weekend and I'm like ugh sooo soon!!!! So yea she will be yet again with us extended weekend or with DH mom because I'm not watching her while DH works! I really don't even think it's his problem, BM needs to stop always uses DH as her safety net. I have had to find care or stay home with my BS8 before because something fell through 

JRI's picture

Well, if BM doesn"t figure it out, definitely send her to grandma, no question.  But will DH ecpect to see her Sunday, F Day?

Ashleytenorio17's picture

Well DH just asked me "would it be okay for SD 10 to stay until Tuesday?" Meaning can you watch her while I work and that's I hard NO!!! It's exhausting enough taking care of DD 1 , DS3 and BS8 then adding another child who is a clingy brat and DH is not gonna parent ! No thank you ! BM needs to figure it out, I guess DH mom has to work. Yea SD was gonna be here Father's Day and we were gonna drop her off late Sunday . BM didn't even bother to get SD from us on Mother's Day until 8 pm . 

Maxwell09's picture

He's a sucker....send her to grandmas and tell him to have a backup plan because you'll be unavailable for any SD emergencies that day. 

justmakingthebest's picture

I don't understand why he can't just say, "sorry, if we had more notice we might have been able to make it work, but unfortunately with work, I just can't keep her. This is why YOU (BM) are the custodial parent"

Ashleytenorio17's picture

Right I don't know why he just can't tell her no either. He knows he has to work and I already told him I have 3 kids to take care of and that's enough. His mom has to work as well so I think she said no because he asked again and I said no. BM needs to learn to handle being a parent!!!! I have had to miss work to stay home with my children before. Part of being a parent 

justmakingthebest's picture

I have primary custody of my kids and when they were little I had to miss a lot of work when the flu or something would roll through our house. I remember one of my first couple of days when I came to my current company, one kid puked at school. I had to leave and take the next day off. It was horrible and I was terrified they were going to tell me to just not come back. It didn't matter though- my kids are my #1 job.

Ashleytenorio17's picture

Right! When I started my last job my kids daycare was closed

fornsome random holiday and I had to tell my boss I was sorry but I had to stay home with them, it's what we do and BM is no exception.

Aunt Agatha's picture

Take two vacation days off work to watch her? Maybe he'll think twice about why he's doing favors for BM?  Because as it is, the person who is really picking up the slack is you or his mom.  Not him, the actual parent.

Ashleytenorio17's picture

And here we are fighting yet again over stupid BM shit! DH was crying because he said he wanted SD to stay with us Monday and Tuesday. I told him that makes no sense because he works all day long and it's me that will have to care for her. I said he needs to stop picking up the slack for BM and let her do her job and figure it out! He said that BM told Him SD will have to stay home alone then! Wow can you believe this POS mother!!! Leaving her 10 year old daughter at home rather then take off work to care for her!!! Just wow

Winterglow's picture

Remind him that HE is perfectly free to take the time off to care for his daughter ... so stop effing blubbering, DuH.

JRI's picture

I think it's a manipulation technique to make him feel bad.

Ashleytenorio17's picture

Yup you are right and he does everytime!!! I ha e already told him what she is doing ! Who would Leave a 10 year old alone at home all day ??? 

tog redux's picture

She's manipulating him and he's manipulating you. Seriously, he's crying?! Why doesn't he take time off if he wants SD there so badly?

Ashleytenorio17's picture

It's just annoying the whole situation, he can't and won't take off work because he just started. He literally does not help me at all during the day while he is working which is fine, he is working. But I am not gonna be also taking care of SD full time . 

Ashleytenorio17's picture

We got into a huge fight about this today because again he only agrees with BM and fights that " he is the dad and blah blah" yes if he wasn't working I could see him having her here no issue but he works in there room alll day long. If I get no help with our kids why would he think it's okay to have SD here because BM doesn't wanna find alternative chd

care. He fights so bad that he loves his daughter sooo much and is her father ok but what about our kids also whom live with us? I told him BM needs to learn to figure her own crap out sometimes and not guilt you into thinking you can help when you just started a job which he works late also! Because he continues to enable her she has learn that DH will jump when she says too. Because of this continues Bull crap I am moving out with the kids as soon as we get

results For our COVID testing. My mom has a empty house she owns and has been telling me to stay there if needed. I can not take it any more !!!! SD can take over all the rooms if she wants I am done