So DH and BM were never married, they broke
So if you have read my previous blogs you know the struggles I have with SD10. She was the only child to my DH until DS3 was born and man let me tell you MIL still acts like she is which has made SD feel entitled and feeds into her baby attitude! DH and myself have DS3 and DD 6 months old together and I have BS8 from previous marriage. DH family likes to treat SD like she is still the only child in the family and often they believe her over BS8 when SD does anything bad! MIL only has pictures up of SD10 and not of the other grandchildren!!!!
This weekend I was sooooo dreading SD to come over. I switched the rooms so she is with DD 6 months instead of bunking with BS8. I made sure she had her stuff up and clothes on her side with her things. She came over and had nothing to say about the room, like thank you I like it or anything which is whatever... But she completely took over the room like i knew she would and insisted it was ONLY her room, she kept locking the door and put her dirty clothes all over the baby's crib and she hide all the baby's toys and stuff.
It's the dreaded weekend for us to have SD and already my anxiety is high! I always try to have a positive mind set and say myself "this weekend will be good!" It's also the weekend I have BS8 ( dads get BS8 EOW) we keep SD and BS8 on the same schedule because they like to play together (or use to anyways). On weekends we have all the kiddos I use to plan things for all of us to do because SD10 get very bored and can't self entertain even after buying her colors and books she wanted .
DH and I have DD 6 months, DS3 and BS8 (from previous marriage) DH has SD10. When DH first started dating he always had just a one bedroom apartment and you couldn't even tell he had a kid. He kept most of her things in a tote in his closet and she had no clothes at his place. When we moved in together it changed. We didn't have baby yet but SD10 wasn't as bad with her behavior towards DS3 and BS8. Her behavior got extremely bad when SD and BS has to share a room which at the time they were totally ok with. That's when her jealously over my son started.
I really feel like BM pushes SD10 to act older then she is and think she is ready for things not appropriate for her age. BM I tries to be a "cool mom" and bleached SD hair when she was prob 5 which has completely ruined her hair now that she 10. Well SD started asking for things that I really don't like are appropriate for her like some facial wash from ulta, Apple pen, expensive perfumes. BM doesn't talk with her and tell her these items are not really appropriate for her and SD of course feels entitled and spoiled. One time when SD was 9 she came over with vagisil body wash!
I would seriously like to know how couples in blended families pull off vacations where Skids do not come . First I would like to say last year when I was about 7 months pregnant I planned a very long road trip to California from Texas. This planning took a lot of time and care and I was excited to do it for the children. I used mainly refund money to fund the trip which included SD10, BS 8 and DS 2 ( son i Have with DH) I bought I bunch of snacks for the kids and bought crafts things for them to do. I bought tickets for all of us to stay in LEGOland and stay and the resort there.
So if you have read my few blogs you know I have a bratty SD10 who acts like a baby. I think this issue got worse when BM divorces STepdad, SD then pushed herself DH. So BM has been doing questionable things like bailing out on Christmas 2 years in a row(we have SD EOW) BM has not worked in 9 years and suddenly decides she wants to find a job in a city 3 hours from us and where she lives with her mom and SD. So BM moves out of town Already for 2 months now and left SD with grandma, trust me i told DH how wrong that was!
So there has been issues with my SD 10 but they seem to be getting worse. I got on my BF about disciplining her when she acts out because he has no problem disciplining my son (8) and the son we have together (3). He has changed his attitude and become more firm with her which I guess she doesn't like so she of course cries and acts like a baby and blames my son a lot! So this weekend we had her and we went to my mother in laws house for her birthday.
Hello. I'm super new to this site but I am looking for answers because I'm really don't know what to do about SD who is 10. I feel like I have tried a lot of different things and it has gotten worse! So some background, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. I have a son (8) from a previous marriage and me and Boyfriend have 2 children together baby girl who is 6months and a son who is 3. At first I did not notice the clinginess, I mean I saw it hear and there but no where near as bad as it is now!