Should we tell BM what SS wants for his birthday (and remind her of when his birthday is)??
Am I way off base here?
SS8 is turning 9 on the 27th. His BM (Nasty) only calls them about once every 6 weeks or so (if he & SD7 are lucky!). Her last phone call was on September 1st (a week & a half after school started) for her 7 minute phone call (that’s both Skids combined)…so technically, she’s not due to call again until mid-October.
Last year, I had SO text BM Nasty the gifts that the Skids wanted for their birthdays…this year, I compiled a note with loads of links of the toys (Atlantis Lego sets) that she could pick & choose from.
SO is fighting me on sending the email (it would be from him) but I think that reminding BM about his birthday & him getting a gift from her would be good versus “my mom forgot my birthday” feelings that are going to crop up. Plus, she doesn’t know the Skids (only sees them for less than a week per year) so she has no idea about what they like.
Am I wrong to want SS to feel like his mom actually cares?