Don't know what to do anymore
:? Last night my partner received a phone call from his son asking him to go over for dinner and I just lost all feelings in my legs ....Cause everytime his son rings my partner hides me and doesn't te his son he is with me ....I often wonder is he protecting his son or himself and I love the man as he is a gorgeous soul, yet why can't he stand up to his 20yr old son ....I don't know if I should cut my losses, which I have in the past as this hiding me makes me feel degraded and worthless but when does being patient and putting ur childrens needs stop???
Please any advise ...
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I wouldn't often recommend
I wouldn't often recommend relationship counselling to anyone on this site,(a lot of stepfamily situations are beyond counselling) but in your case, and having read your Bio information for background, I think that the problem lies mainly with your partner and not his son. His own family history seems to be feeding into the problem. His son is an adult, yet your partner is behaving as if he is a young child.
If your partner is not willing to have counselling with you, or for any reason it's not an option, I would in your place give him and ultimatum that he either acknowledges you openly and proudly as his partner, or the relationship ends, as you will not tolerate being made to feel like a dirty secret. If he is indeed a gorgeous soul, he should stop trampling on yours.
Omg....How true is ur comment
Omg....How true is ur comment !!! You know it yet you need to hear it in a different way and it is so hard when your emotionally involved...It's like you took the exact thoughts out of my head and verbalized them....Thank you, Thank you and thank you
Your comment is so true and
Your comment is so true and thank you...I have two children of my own and I would never allow them to disrespect an adult but we are all different....My 14yr old daughter turned around to my partner and said "I don't like that you have hurt my mum but you make her happy and as long as my mum is happy, then I am happy to see that in my mum"....So that just shows one's patenting skills to another.....My childrens father was horrible to them and to me when we split and 7 yrs later I still encourage the children to see their dad as I tell them their father has a right to be happy too....
I have been with my partner now for four years ....