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Why can't BM contact her kids?

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Submitted by Anon2009 on Mon, 06/08/2009 - 7:57pm

My OSD got an A on a math test. She called her mother to tell her about it. BM never responded.

I think that, at 13, she is starting to realize that she and her sister were nothing more than paychecks to BM. BM has never worked, so SD is starting to wonder, how did Mom make it by without working? How come she got the nice stuff, but we got cr*p?

She was so hurt by BM's not calling her. We spent the whole night consoling her and took her to her therapist today. The therapist encouraged her to call BM and leave her a voicemail, telling her how this hurts her. He also encouraged her to tell her grandparents about it, and ask them to talk to BM.

Please pray for these two beautiful girls as they cope with the situation with BM.

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Submitted by Stick on Mon, 06/08/2009 - 8:00pm

I'll pray for them. I'm going through something sort of similar. Take a look at some of my other blogs. BM doesn't ignore her daughter, but she does incredibly stupid and selfish things that hurt her so... just like yours. I'm glad she is seeing a therapist. God Bless and good luck. I hope that those sweet girls are ok.

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Submitted by Sunflower on Mon, 06/08/2009 - 9:27pm

My prayers are with you and the girls. May you have the strength to carry them through the worst of it and may you all feel loved. It breaks my heart to hear that their BM cant even acknowledge SD's accomplishment. I am proud for her 13 is a tough age to focus on your studies.It is good that she has her therapist and I really hope they can help her learn to cope. Unfortunatley BM may never change. However I think that now because SD is starting to "figure it out" she will hold tighter to the bond you to have. I will be praying that BM has a change of heart and at least shows some respect and love to her children.Hang in there.

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Submitted by LotusFlower on Tue, 06/09/2009 - 8:21am

SD11 is still waiting for the xmas gifts BM said she was sending :(.....it breaks my heart to see kids treated this way...I do not and will not ever understand how a Mother can treat her children like this....is it truly because they are failures as parents and it hurts too much, or are they just sc&mbags?......I dunno, but my heart breaks for yur girls and I know that the more u are there to support them thru all the heartbreak, the more u are the real Mom to them....trust me, they figure out very quickly who is truly there for them, even tho it may hurt so much to accept that it is not a bio parent. The fact that u love them so much, speaks volumes of u who are Smile

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Submitted by Endora on Tue, 06/09/2009 - 9:08am

Has not spoken to his now grown sons in a few years. It really breaks my heart that they do not have a father who wants a relationship with these two exceptional young men (the best revenge is success!).

My eldest son left a message on his Dad's VM-for his dad's Birthday, Christmas, Fathers Day last year-no response-

They just keep leaving messages-they figure someone has to be the bigger person- Sad

Very sorry for your SD as this is very hard for her I am sure!

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