haha I have a wonderful list of things that drive me crazy about my husband, but I take them for what they are and love him for it,... and I know how to set the boundaries.

My husband never puts his clothes in the laundry hamper. they are all over the floor bathroom. BUT I made it a pint to him that if he doesn't put them in the hamper I don't know if he wants to wear them again, so they will NOT get washed, So either he puts them in the hamper or he does his own laundry.

He also CONSTANTLY flips channels while watching TV. watches 5 shows at once(i'm not exaggerating) BUT I've made it clear that if I have not seen an episode or a movie he is switching between then I leave the room(which usually means I boot the kids out of their play room so I can watch what I want and he is stuck with the kids,.. so he either keeps to two programs or he has the kids wanting to watch their disney shows.

And ONE OF THE IGGEST FIGHTS OF HIS MARRIAGE he will go to his parent's house with or without the kids, but not tell me he is going to eat supper there or not,... so I made the rule,... you tell me you are going to be at your parent's for the evening , then I'm not making supper. So don't expect me home and don't expect supper. Because I'm not going to have you show up with the kids at 7:30 at night and ask what's for supper,...

Does it solve all of my probelmss,... no,... but we learn to love what we are stuck with or we boot it out
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bd19 told me that her deadbeat's wife said deadbeat's ex and the mother of his oldest son cannot be in her home because she's crazy. I don't know her, I don't know anyone in that loser's life. bd said even deadbeat said yes, she's a psycho. she may be. God knows he's managed to find some real winners since me. however, he also goes around telling people that I am crazy, I am a money hungry bitch, I need to get over him and stop "bothering" him, yada yada yada. facts: he tried getting me to go back to him 2 years after I left and when I said no, that's when the hate campaign began. he never pays cs, never has paid and never will pay. he is also perpetually unemployed. the only money I have access to is MY OWN. so I dont' know wtf the money hungry bitch thing is about. oh wait. that's because he wanted me to go to court and sign away his obligation and I said no. therefore, I only care about money. (eye roll). I haven't had anything to do with him outside of a few times in a courtroom in 13 years. he on the other hand, has gone right to my gramma's door to hang out all damn day several times and approaches my relatives that he really doesn't even know and waits to be acknowledged and when they ignore him he gets all self righteous and says "dont' you know who I am?" um, ok. but I won't leave him alone. sure thing, douchebag. whatever helps you sleep at night.

so yeah. I think there are always 2 sides to the story. I'm sure some bm's are crazy and cause tons of drama. but sometimes you get a moron like deadbeat, who tells stories but reverses the characters roles.

Not BM, but his exGFs. He used to say that they couldn't handle him and he's amazed that I can (lots of practice with a very difficult younger sister.) Just last month though, I blew up at him and said whether or not I can handle him is no longer an issue, it's whether or not I want to and I just don't want to because he's so annoying!

He can sometimes the most inconsistent, hypocritical, annoying piece of crap I have ever met and he will be that way 24/7 if I allow it--and I allowed it for way too long. At least I can get away from my sister, but he'll follow me into the bathroom or stand at the door if I lock it!

On BM's front, he was a full blown ass to her, she still continued to pursue him. I don't know about you but if a guy kept treating me like I was worth less than the stuff on the bottom of his shoe, sleeping with him would be the last thing on my mind, much less throwing myself at him. He would say subtle, seemingly innocuous things that would send her into rages and crying fits and all I could think was, why do you let him get to you like this? (That was before I found out they had slept together, how psycho she was, and how much of a jerk he can be.)

These days I tell him BM can have him, criminey, let her deal with him and see how fast she wants to give him back. He's that bad when he's belligerent. I tell him I'm the dumbest out of all his relationships because of my high tolerance and patience.

He's been on his best behavior the last month but I'm not so quick to forgive.

No, because the reason she would get mad at him was because he didn't spend enough money on her or take her out enough. She thought it was absurd that he wouldn't pay for her to get her nails done.

She never went back to his place after he made a comment about a certain actress being 'hot'. I guess he didn't tell her she was beautiful enough times to make her happy! :?